Wednesday Wrap The Third!! What is Mindfullness?

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Re: Wednesday Wrap The Third!! What is Mindfullness?

Mindfulness is difficult to translate into a written definition because it is much more a practice and experience, than an abstract concept. It is a way of being – i.e. mindfulness is about being engaged in the present moment, rather than fixating attention on the past or the future. For example, if you are having a difficult conversation with a teenager and you notice yourself becoming caught up on issues that happened in the past or worried about possible future consequences, remaining mindful would mean staying focused and committed to the present moment experience – even if it’s uncomfortable – without slipping into judgement.

 

Mindfulness is a continuous process of engaging in the present moment – the sights, sounds, tastes, textures and smells happening around you, and the thoughts, emotions and sensations happening within you.

 

I like to think of mindfulness as being the observer - the position of witnessing and engaging with what's happening without getting swept away by distractions. 

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Re: Wednesday Wrap The Third!! What is Mindfullness?

Beautifully put, thank you
eyintas/Empowering Youth in Tasmania
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Re: Wednesday Wrap The Third!! What is Mindfullness?

That makes a lot of sense @taokat My eldest is down with it but my middle daughter, the 14 year old, gives the eye roll of death at anything even remotely 'touchy feely'.

 

So much of parenting seems to be modelling. Would you agree @Emily_May?

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Re: Wednesday Wrap The Third!! What is Mindfullness?

That's priceless!
eyintas/Empowering Youth in Tasmania
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Re: Wednesday Wrap The Third!! What is Mindfullness?

Absolutely @taokat - it's useful to use words and metaphors that resonate with them. For the teenagers who come to see me who are into music or sports, we often use talk about the experience of them being on the soccer field or listening to their favourite band

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Re: Wednesday Wrap The Third!! What is Mindfullness?

That's a great tip @Emily_May

it sounds weird but I know that I often forget to bring it back to their experiences rather than my own.

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Re: Wednesday Wrap The Third!! What is Mindfullness?

Can I ask @Emily_May, is mindfulness then being aware of our emotions and things coming up for us, but keeping with what is relevant in that moment?

 

Is it also about being with our emotions and naming them. We communicate a lot about our emotions, but they can be emotions brought up by past things too.

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Re: Wednesday Wrap The Third!! What is Mindfullness?

Absolutely @Ngaio-RO!

 

Any interaction with a teenager is about fostering connection and building a relationship. Mindfulness allows us to do that because we are present and available to them. We all want to be heard and valued, and when that happens we are open and receptive to what that person has to say.

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Re: Wednesday Wrap The Third!! What is Mindfullness?

Awesome point too @Ngaio-RO! Me too!

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Re: Wednesday Wrap The Third!! What is Mindfullness?

@taokat - being with the present moment within us (thoughts, emotions, sensations) and around us (sounds, sight, textures, taste, smells) is all part of mindfulness.

 

Both what is happening within us and what is happening around us can grab our attention and take us away from what is. The process of returning to the present moment is what mindfulness is all about. It can often help to name or label our experiences as a way of noticing them, and then letting them go