Hey @Harris
Thank you for posting and sharing on the Forums.
I just want to say that it sounds like you are dealing with a really challenging situation and your feelings and thoughts are valid. Your daughters behaviours sound like they make parenting her really hard but I sense that you really love her and care about her a lot. Reaching out like you are demonstrates your a mother looking to understand her daughter and support her as a parent. And her father being on her side and not agreeing to rules is making that even more challenging for you.
You are demonstrating resilience and a strong character when faced with resistance from you family and it takes courage to talk about things like this openly and how it affects you. I encourage you to acknowledge your efforts so far and consider that there are things in life that you can't control even when you are in a position as a parent to care for your daughter. And sharing that responsibility with another parent and dealing with different parenting styles and worldviews.
I have a couple of articles for you that might help with effective communication and building trust if you feel it is beneficial to read them. Research is a good place to start and learn from the experience of other rather than doing in all alone. I wonder do you have a trusted person you can talk to about this who understands your situation or knows you as a caring mother? Please see the articles below:
How have you been coping with this up to now or what have you done in the past that might help you through this challenging time? There a services in the community and online that can help you and provide a safe space to talk about this with some who understands your challenges. It might be worth looking for a parents support group in your local area by Googling a few search options. Or maybe give some of the below online services a call and have a look at the list of services listed be ReachOut:
I'm going to send you an email too just to check in with you privately and ask a few questions and offer some support there.
Remember to acknowledge that you are doing the best you can right now under really challenging situations. Teenage years and not easy for a lot of parents and some solidarity with other parents could provide some relief and solutions to your challenges with both your daughter and her father. Please continue to post on the Forums and the community can support you here too.
Take care
Peter-Ro
