11-07-2019 04:28 AM
11-07-2019 11:49 AM
Hi @Bubble_girl01 and thank you for your courage in reaching out to this community. I can hear how concerned you are for your brother, and he is very lucky to have a sister that cares about him as much as you do
It sounds like there has been quite a few changes in your brother's behaviour the last few months including drug use, graffiti, and disengaging from your family. I can understand why you are feeling concerned. You have mentioned your parents have been trying to uphold boundaries more firmly for your brother, but that he has not adhered to these. Did you notice the changes in your brother before or after the drug use?
I'm hearing that he is not open to seeking help right now, and I can imagine that must weigh on you when you can see all the things you want him to seek help for. We often encourage parents and family members to go and seek help on the person's behalf. It may be the case that speaking to a counsellor or professional yourself (or your parents seeking professional support) may be helpful in finding some new strategies to approach the situation. Would your parents, or yourself, be open to something like this?
This community is mainly for parents, so you might get some good ideas how to approach the situation here, otherwise I would also encourage you to post to our youth community as well if you are under 25. We have a lot of young people supporting family members, and you may find more support there too