11-30-2018 04:01 PM
11-30-2018 07:54 PM - edited 11-30-2018 08:15 PM
Hey @Adrianr29, thanks for sharing your story here. These things seem to be quite frustrating for you. How do you manage when all these things are happening? What makes you unsure about whether you should put your foot down? Have you spoken to your boyfriend about how he handles things? Just some questions to gain some more information about what is going on for you!
12-01-2018 03:01 AM
12-01-2018 10:16 AM
Hi @Adrianr29 that definitely sounds like a tough position to be in, wanting to set some boundaries but on the other hand not wanting to step on anyone's toes. It's really hard when we walk into a situation where people are set in their ways and then not being sure of how to influence some positive changes without upsetting anyone. It sounds like there's going to be a bit of transition with your boyfriend's daughter moving out of state after graduation. Has your boyfriend advised if he plans to move as well? You also said you've mentioned a few things, how did that conversation go? We're here to listen and support you.
12-01-2018 12:22 PM
12-01-2018 09:54 PM
12-02-2018 03:06 AM
12-02-2018 09:56 AM
Hi @Adrianr29 you and your boyfriend sound really good for each other It's great to hear that he has you for support when previously he didn't have anyone to go to for advice. While it must be frustrating to see his daughter not take any responsibility or act spoiled, it sounds like you are having a positive influence on your boyfriend. It may be a slow and gradual process, it does sound like you are making progress as you mentioned she is starting to see his happiness matters. What are some suggestions you think would be helpful in this situation that you could discuss with your boyfriend? What is your relationship like with his daughter and are you able to spend more time together? I'm going to tag some members for some further support and advice @Chalke5 @Helpful_Mum @Dad4good @hippy_mum
12-02-2018 02:18 PM
12-02-2018 09:56 PM
No worries @Adrianr29, we are here to provide support. It sounds like a really complex situation but one that has already shown some improvement. It is great that you get along and that is bound to ebb and flow. Are you ever concerned for her safety? I expect that there are still some things you really want to change.. so do you have an action plan for the future?