08-18-2020 10:37 AM
08-18-2020 04:03 PM
Hi there @BrokenQueen welcome to the forum and thanks for posting your story here
The way you speak about your children and other children as kings and queens is so beautiful, and its quite powerful to read you speak about them in this way. It's clearly such a testament to the kind of care and love you have for your kids.
You said that your daughter is experiencing suicidal thoughts at the moment, that must be very distressing for you as a parent. You said you're getting help for both yourself and your daughter, can I ask what this is and if you're finding it useful? There are some tips here on supporting a teenager who is suicidal that you might find helpful to have a look at. I'm wondering as well if you're receiving any support around gambling? We can discuss that more here and look into supports that might be helpful if that interests you.
It's saddening to hear that you describe yourself as broken, there is a quote I like that is "There is no one stronger than a broken woman who has put herself back together." Your posting here, and seeking support, and offering a message of hope with other parents shows such incredible strength, thank you for sharing with us.
08-23-2020 11:35 PM
I too have struggled with my demons while trying to raise Queens and a King and now find myself in the same place as you. I'm lost without any idea how to help my 14 year old Queen. She is without friends because of a learning disability that took her to the special needs classroom and the kids in that room are severely disable while my queen is on the opposite end of that spectrum. She is now depressed and struggling because she is lacking the social aspect of her life. Her one friend was a couple years older than her and while they were inseparable when they first met; this friend now has a boyfriend and a job an other friends so she is never available for my beautiful queen leaving her devastated and lost. I joined this forum in hopes of learning some tools to find friends for her and guidance for me on how to talk to and address some of the issues I have in my life with them in a way they can understand. I wanted you to know that your not alone and if you ever need to talk; I'm here.
08-24-2020 09:49 AM
08-24-2020 10:22 AM
08-24-2020 04:18 PM
Hey @BrokenQueen that is so great to hear the school counsellor is amazing! I am so glad that they are a source of support and are directing you all to other useful supports as well.
Doing support remotely due to covid can definitely be tricky, but good on you for persevering with it. How is your daughter going with being alone less?
Totally understandable she doesn't want to wash the dishes though - I think unfortunately that may always be the case ! (it certainly is for me!)
It sounds like you have really done your research about gambling supports, good on you for doing that Its a shame there aren't a lot of gamblers anonymous meetings close to you, I hope you're able to find one and that it's a supportive environment.
Hope Bob Marley can accompany your washing for today
08-24-2020 04:29 PM
Hey @14yroldsMomlost sorry to hear your daughter is depressed and struggling with friendships. It must be extra challenging that her friend now has a job and a boyfriend and isn't as present at the moment.
I think what @BrokenQueen is suggesting around a shared interest is a great idea! Is there anything your daughter really enjoys that she could do socially?
Also it's so great to see parents giving each other support here on the forum, thank you both for being here