12-08-2019 11:27 AM
12-08-2019 01:00 PM - edited 12-08-2019 01:01 PM
Hi @Shortstuff2, thank you for sharing. We are so sorry to hear that your son is going through bullying again. It sounds like a horrible and upsetting start to secondary school. Your heart must break watching him go through this experience all over again. He must be feeling so confused and hurt towards his friendship group. It is amazing to hear that you have a really good relationship with him and are able to talk about this. It is important to keep communication open, loving and non-judgmental. Is your son currently seeking any professional support? Do you feel like he might begin harming himself again?
Approaching the school means that they are able to take action and monitor the situation. Without making them aware of the situation, the support, insight and intervention they can offer could be limited. That being said, you could still access the Student Wellbeing Services to receive support for your son which could be highly beneficial. They also might have an idea of local resources that you could access for your own support. This is important while you are supporting your son through this difficult and uneasy time period. Alternatively, we usually recommend services like Parents Line which provide amazing counselling and resources. You could also explore this issue further in depth with them over the telephone
The concern you raise about the kids finding out is quite a common and normal worry to have as a parent. Due to the commonality of this issue, you would assume that the school would have ways of ensuring confidentiality and privacy. For example, the school could claim that the teacher has overheard the bullying as opposed to you filing a report. This is just an assumption so to be safe and reassured, you could have this conversation with the school before mentioning specific or personal details. This would allow you to find out more about their practices, policies and procedures.
Please keep us updated, we are here to listen.
12-08-2019 09:42 PM
12-09-2019 03:06 PM
Hope you don't mind that I jump in here to send my support to you and your son
Whilst being bullied is a heartbreaking thing to go through and to watch - I believe the most important thing is having a safety network of support people who can remind you of who you truly are, help build your coping skills and be a shoulder to cry on when needed.
It sounds like you have a wonderfully open and trusting relationship with your boy and I'm sure he can feel your love and support. It's also great that you've planted the seed of going to see the counsellor again - maybe this could be a suggestion to revisit in the future.
We'll be thinking of yourself and your son Please let us know how you go with the next steps in managing this situation.
12-10-2019 06:03 AM
12-10-2019 04:03 PM
Hi @Shortstuff2 ,
Thanks so much for keeping us updated on how your son is progressing. It sounds like he's really making excellent progress with developing strategies to prevent self-harm, and it's really positive to hear that he is developing insight into his own emotions. The fact that he's able to communicate openly with both yourself and with his Dad shows that you've built a really trusting relationship with him, and it's wonderful that he is able to articulate his feelings like that.
How are you feeling? It can be incredibly taxing as a parent to see our kids in distress, and it's important to take care of yourself as well We are really glad that you've been able to find support here and hope that you keep us posted with how you are all travelling.
12-10-2019 09:30 PM