Daughter seems to hate everyone and everything...especially us

[Jess1-RO]

Hi @Piper, @lighthouse369, @Mazz123 and @Dad4good,

This is such a valuable conversation and I can really hear just how difficult it has been for each of you  

I really love what piper said "One thing that keeps me going sometimes is the knowledge that my kids won't be young forever and that hopefully there is light at the end of the tunnel once they get through the teenage years. I really cherish the rare times that our whole family can enjoy time together  so I guess at the moment all we can do is ride the wave and give her as much love and support as we can."

Holding that hope that there will be a light at the end of the tunnel for you and for your kids can be so valuable to help get through the harder times. I'm wondering for other parents on this thread, what do you hold onto to help you get through these tough teenage years?

[Dad4good]

Hi @Jess1-RO,

Good question. For me its the vision of my son being a happy, productive, young adult (and him being appreciative of the fact that we helped him get there). I don't want to be negative, but this also scares me, as I'll be devastated if he doesn't get there (although I'm sure I'll do the same thing again, and imagine further into the future).

[Taylor-RO]

Awesome @Dad4good, I think it is great for you to have something to hold onto. As you said, it would also be amazing to know you were there for your son and supported him to the best of your ability. I think over time you will be able to reflect on the successes you have had along the way.. hopefully our forum helps with that!

[lighthouse369]

I guess the same as all parents. I look forward to one day that she will be able to make her way in the world without taking on all the emotional pain that is out there. A happy vibrant young woman is how I see my baby girl all grown up. She was an awesome toddler and young girl and my hope is the same for her future.

[MomOfTwo]

Hi there— I have a 14 year old in a similar situation...She was adopted at 8 weeks old...We have tried so many different therapists and she quits also...I hired a consulting group to coordinate help...She destroys all relationships with friends and family members...treats us horrible, now won’t go to school... We have decided to send her to a treatment center for trauma and dual diagnose...it’s very sad for all but she needs much more help and resists everyone and she is extremely verbally abusive, failing school, stealing from me and her dad... it’s so exhausting...I feel you....

[Taylor-RO]

Hi @MomOfTwo, thank you for sharing. Your situation with your daughter sounds incredibly challenging. I can tell that you have really tried to do all that you can to support your daughter. It must be so emotionally exhausting to feel as though nothing has been helping. I hope you have some success with the treatment center. Do you feel comfortable sharing what the treatment center will entail? Please feel welcome to let us know how you go