03-20-2019 02:46 AM - last edited on 03-20-2019 09:57 AM by Jess1-RO
My son is 17 and for two years he become bed bounded
He got excluded at 16
His brother hasn’t visited for 6
He’s also addicted to play station
I did removed
I have social worker on case
But nothing helping
He also come out from hodpital fir therapy but
My son denies he isn’t unwell
03-20-2019 10:03 AM
Hi @Preciosa and welcome to the ReachOut forums! We are very grateful for your courage in sharing what is happening for your son.
It sounds like your son has been really struggling the last few years. I can imagine it must be so challenging to see your son withdraw for such an extended period of time- really feel for you and your family right now
You mentioned that your son has had a social worker and has been hospitalised before, is this correct? Have previous supports recommended anything to help your son moving forward?
Is your son studying at the moment? You mentioned he has been bed bound, are you able to tell us a bit more about that?
You may notice I have moved your comment across to a new topic, so that our community can have a space for you to offer support and suggestions We would love to hear back from you soon
03-20-2019 11:25 AM
03-25-2019 04:02 PM - edited 03-25-2019 04:02 PM
Thank you for getting back to us @Preciosa
It sounds like such a challenging situation when professionals haven't been able to give you a definitive diagnosis. What are your thoughts about the discussion of autism? Was this something they discussed at the hospital?
You mentioned that he has some supports such as a social worker and nurse- even if he is not ready to open up to health professionals, they can be a really good support for you Do you get any in house support such as a disability or mental health support worker to help you out? There are a few community based organisations in Australia that offer a range of services to help in situations when someone is at home and needs more support, and to support you.
I can't begin to imagine how hard this must be for you when he is scared to leave the home- have you got a support system to be there for you? Such as friends, family or professionals?
We are all thinking of you today!
03-28-2019 03:27 AM - edited 03-28-2019 03:29 AM
03-28-2019 12:11 PM
I am sorry you are going through such a tough time. I can tell you love your son very much and will do anything for him. Its so scary when we don't have the answers we need. When we are not sure what is going to happen next. I can totally relate. My daughter had gone through a severe depression, anxiety and a whole host of things for the past almost 2 years. She is recovering now.
Just keep doing your best, keep seeking answers and additional help. Please take care of yourself- reaching out to others for support is one way to help keep you sane.
My heart goes out to you.
PS: my nephew has a form of severe autism discovered in early teens, very smart and stayed in his room for years only contact was his online video gaming friends. He is now 18 1/2 and he is making huge strides even starting college outside the home part time. I just want to bring you hope. Things can and will eventually get better.
03-28-2019 02:41 PM
Thanks for sharing your experiences, I can imagine it must be very emotional for you.
I just wanted to touch on one thing (because @Jess1-RO and @sunflowermom have already provided great feedback!). . . .
I can hear that you care deeply for your son, and are being very proactive in trying to improve your sons life. Please just remember that you also need to look after yourself. When our loved ones are putting our safety at risk, there are two victims: your son and yourself. Please reach out to community services in your area, and let them know that your also a victim in this difficult situation.
I wish you the best of luck, and keep fighting for both of you!
04-24-2019 04:49 AM
I am wondering what has been suggested to you about him living independently. How do they suggest he . do that? I feel like my almost 18 year old son is very anxious about living independently and treats me like a servant as well. I am his only parent and the only person who has been with him every day of his life basically. He just tried to kill himself and won't talk to a therapist. He does have a sister who is 20 and cares about him a lot, but my son won't divulge what he is feeling with us.
Have you had any luck getting more help? Has your son always had difficulties since he was little? I am wondering that because of what you said about autism.
04-29-2019 08:08 PM - edited 04-29-2019 08:10 PM
04-29-2019 08:13 PM
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