09-13-2019 11:41 AM
I'm happy that you found your way to our forums and that you have taken something from the suggestions made by @taokat.
I'm sorry to hear that this situation is causing you to feel anxious and alone - it sounds like some more catch ups with your friends would be good for you during this time. I'm also wondering if you've thought about seeking some support for yourself? Maybe a counsellor to talk through this with?
We are of course here for you as well!
01-24-2020 06:38 AM
08-23-2020 04:12 PM
These messages were from a while ago but I am wondering if there is any resolutions to this - my 18 year old daughter has slowly changed from a sweet, sometimes dramatic girl to a nasty, spoiled one who has me in tears every day with her attitude. I think she is depressed and we have started counselling for her but she only tells them half truths. She's lazy, doesn't do a thing around the house and if you ask her to do anything or don't do something she wants she storms off and refuses to move from her bedroom. All she does is eat and binge watch t.v. shows. Her motivation for school work is all but done and she's gone from good grades to failing just before the HSC. It's all so depressing and it effects the entire household including her younger sister and my marriage. We are at a loss at what to do as she doesn't seem to care one bit that she upsets everyone and in fact seems to try even harder to say mean thing to get a reaction. Any advice please?
08-24-2020 02:54 PM
Hi @Mitchell54 ,
It can be so tough as a parent watching your child struggling like that, especially when it feels like they've changed from the child that you thought that you knew. Has your daughter been able to open up to you about anything that may have happened in her life that's contributing to how she's feeling at all?
It's great to hear that she's seeing a counsellor - how long has she been seeing them for? It can take time to build a good relationship with a health care professional, and sometimes it can take a few tries to find the right fit. If you think she'd be interested, organisations like Kids Helpline and
also provide free phone and online counselling.
I'm also wondering if you've had any support for yourself and your family? It sounds like it's been a really stressful time for you and it can help a lot for parents to get their own support when they're helping to support their teens through mental health issues. We do offer a free one to one parents support service here if you'd be interested.
Does your daughter have any plans for what she'd like to do next year when she's finished school? It's been an especially rough year for a lot of teenagers.
Keep us posted on how she, and you, are getting on - we are always here to talk.
08-31-2021 01:23 AM
08-31-2021 12:22 PM - edited 08-31-2021 12:25 PM
Hi @Calmsees and welcome to the forums – we’re so glad you reached out here for support.
If you would like to discuss your situation some more, please feel free to create a thread of your own here.
It sounds like your family has been through some really tough times in recent years, how heartbreaking that your daughter has lost relationships, etc since she was introduced to drugs at highschool.
I can hear the grief underlying your words and I really feel for all of you.
I’m also hearing that you love your daughter, but you’re finding it painful to continue supporting her at the moment. Are there other support options that she could turn to so you can take some space?
Do you have much support yourself or anyone you can talk to?
09-17-2021 09:59 AM
@Ilonija - Its been 2 years and I am curious how this has turned out or how its going. I am currently in the EXACT same situation and considering having husband and teen move out while youngest daughter and I try to live in peace.
09-21-2021 02:32 PM
I can only imagine how stressed you must be feeling to be considering living apart from your husband and older daughter. Do you have any support for yourself through this?