Hey
My son has a diagnosis for ADHD but I'm concerned something else may be happening and I don't know what to do.
Firstly, if he doesn't get his own way even over small issues (even about where he wants to sit in the car), he will meltdown, verbally calling people names and physically push by his younger siblings to get past when he doesn't really need to touch anyone to get to his seat.
When he is given a consequence for his behaviour, it is NEVER his fault. He never owns his choices; it is always the other person's fault. They took my seat so it is totally fine that I called them names or hit them. Also 'why didn't they get a consequence, it was their fault? You always pick on me!' Um, hello you can't hit people when you're mad at them!!!
This is the kind of worped logic we live with. He is easily set off too.
He also will only want to follow instructions when it suits him. If he is asked to do something and receives a consequence for saying no and refusing to budge, it is our fault for the consequence, not his!
We actually have a good relationship, good connection. But this situation is causing all sorts of stress , disconnect and frustration in our house. Are we dealing with any other mental health issues?
