06-06-2021 08:40 PM
I am sorry to hear that you're having a tough time with your 14 year old. It sounds like they are quite angry and frustrated at the moment and this is creating a very hostile environment within the home.
Would you be able to share a bit more detail as to what your situation is like? When did this behavior start occurring? What supports do you have at the moment? Are you concerned for you or your child's well-being?
In the meantime, some basic tips on how to approach an angry tip might give you a starting point, you can find some here.
06-08-2021 05:37 PM
06-09-2021 04:39 PM
Hi @Peaceful ,
What a lovely username
Thanks so much for sharing your experience, it's always so valuable to hear from other parents who are in similar situations.. and I can hear that you have a lot of insight into both your son's behaviour, and things that tend to set him off. You clearly love him very much and take a compassionate view of his behaviour, even when it's hurtful.
You're so right, that it can really stun you/ hit you in the guts when your child says something aggressive or hurtful to you. I've also experienced that - and I will be honest and say I experienced a range of emotions. I was upset, angry, and also totally shocked- hearing someone you literally gave birth to be verbally abusive is an awful feeling.
It's really valid to be hurt by that, and it's also ok to set firm boundaries, but I love how you've been able to pair this with a really compassionate approach.
Do you have any other children @Peaceful ?
06-09-2021 05:53 PM - edited 06-09-2021 05:58 PM
06-09-2021 08:42 PM
06-10-2021 09:34 AM - edited 06-10-2021 09:36 AM
06-10-2021 02:40 PM - edited 06-10-2021 02:41 PM
Hello @Peaceful , it is good to hear that things have been more quiet for you lately. It sounds like you have been really proactive in learning some more strategies that you can use to deal with the situation that you have been dealing with. It is awesome that these strategies have helped you feel better. So lovely that you are sharing your experiences here to help others and that you have found the forum to be useful. I hope that things continue to improve with your son .
06-10-2021 03:02 PM - edited 06-10-2021 03:36 PM