02-26-2023 09:51 PM
02-26-2023 10:35 PM
Hi @Worriedmun ,
Thank you for sharing what has been happening lately.
You have every right to worry about your daughter. It sounds like you have tried speaking to your daughter. Do you think your daughter is aware of your worries and anxieties? As much as you've probably warned her in love, sometimes, letting them know you are worried by clearly stating it, may have a deeper impact. e.g. "I feel very worried when you go to the gym late at night because..."
As part of children growing up and leaving the nest, these worries as parents are only natural. Keep talking to her. Not at her. Let her know you want the best for her.
Is is important that you continue reaching out so that you feel supported at this time.
03-04-2023 10:09 PM
03-06-2023 03:40 PM - edited 03-06-2023 03:41 PM
I imagine it to be quite difficult to interact with your daughter’s friend comfortably with the worries you have been having about the impact that they are having on your daughter's well-being. I’m sorry to hear that your daughter became annoyed with you for this, I can see you only want the best for her.
I found an article on effective communication with teenagers here and here that I thought might give you some tips for having tough conversations with your daughter. Do you think this could be helpful?
It sounds like you also have your own stuff going on at the moment, which I imagine isn't being helped by the current situation. I am wondering if you have any emotional supports or self-care strategies in place for yourself at the moment? It's really important to prioritise self-care, and we have a few tips for that here and here if you're interested.
03-08-2023 11:49 AM
I'm sorry to hear that, I imagine that would've been really tough for both your daughter and you. But hopefully this means she will be able to get the support she needs right now and will be a positive step forward in the long run. I'm wondering if they have linked in with you about being involved with your daughter's sessions with psychologists etc? Do you know if CAHMS have been a part of the process so far? If not, it may be worth getting in touch, they should be able to give you some support throughout this too.
I can understand those feelings of failure rearing their head, but I assure you that you're not. It's very clear from your willingness to reach out for support, that you really care about your daughter and have done what you can to ensure she's supported too. Sometimes unfortunately these things are out of our control. But the main thing is that your daughter is in the best place she can be right now. Have you been able to chat to any family or friends about how you're feeling?
03-08-2023 03:02 PM
03-09-2023 11:43 AM
Hey there @Worriedmun
I've just been catching up on your thread this morning, and it sounds like it's been a massive couple of weeks. I'm glad to hear your daughter will be in contact with the mental team and that you have your mum checking in on you both.
I can imagine how hard it must be to let your daughter go and see friends after the week she's had. It's hard when you want to give your teen freedom but equally want to protect them at a vulnerable time. In particular, the toxic friend you've had concerns about sounds really hard. Did your daughter end up seeing her last night?
I'm wishing you both a restful weekend ahead. Do the two of you have anything nice planned?
Please know we're thinking of you and your daughter and are always here to listen.
03-09-2023 04:59 PM
03-09-2023 08:06 PM
Hi there @Worriedmun ,
We hear that you worry so much about your daughter and that your daughter did see her friend. In all this, were you able to do something pleasant for yourself?
It was so sweet that your daughter brought you flowers. It shows she really does love you. It sounds like work does give your daughter structure, responsibility and and perhaps independence in a safe space? Would you say so?
For now, let's look at the progress that's been made. It will help you to keep going.
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