03-25-2019 12:51 AM
03-25-2019 05:45 PM
It is always difficult communicating with teenagers. I'll really recommend you to try different methods of communication. This type of behavior is normal in teens these days but dangerous. Parents should never leave their kids side in this period of time no matter how much they want to go away. Let them do what they want but keep a close eye on them for their safety.
03-27-2019 11:50 AM
Have you had a chance to check out the link from @TWatson?
I can imagine it must be so hard as a parent when your teen won't talk to you- will she speak to anyone else in your family?
I am really sorry to hear that you have been met with judgement in other spaces- that must be really hard. We can see from your interactions with our forums just how important the wellbeing of your daughter is to you and how much you want to support her.
I am wondering if you would be interested in our parents coaching service? ReachOut offer a 1:1 professional support service for Australian parents to work through an issue they are experiencing with their teen and put together an active plan. You can book an appointment with our service here. It is also a safe judgement-free space where you can get support around how your daughter's experiences are impacting your family as a whole, and hopefully give you a space to work through things and decide on a course of action moving forward.
Do you think that might be something you would access?
03-28-2019 03:35 AM
03-28-2019 02:56 PM
How amazing is it that @TWatson and @Jess1-RO can steer you in the direction of professional support, that's the best!
Its such a difficult time when we experience a disconnect with our kids. I have a 15 your old son, but he rarely gives me the silent treatment so I cant really talk to that. However, he runs away (allot!) and it has the same effect (i.e., you can't help but think "does he even care about the family?").
Its so unfortunate that you have received harsh judgement, clearly you care about your daughter and don't deserve that response.
Personally, I'm not sure how much influence you can have over your child's behaviour once they reach late adolescence. I just remind myself that I'm providing a loving home and making myself available to talk. They do have to contribute to the relationship as well.
Best of luck!
03-28-2019 10:35 PM
03-31-2019 12:25 PM
It sounds like a really difficult situation @mrskode. You mention your daughter does want to move, however she is defensive and argumentative when the topic is broached. It sounds like you can't get a word through to her. It might be worth reflecting that you want to help but are unsure of what sort of help she wants. Perhaps writing a letter to her might be a different take on the situation?
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