09-04-2022 04:47 PM
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09-05-2022 07:16 AM
09-05-2022 12:48 PM
I'm really glad to hear you have the support of a therapist whilst navigating this relationship with your daughter. Putting healthy boundaries in place with people we love can be a really difficult thing to do, but so important for everyone's safety & wellbeing.
We are an Australian-based organisation, however, I found some info on family violence supports in your area that might be useful to check out. Here are some BPD supports available in your area that might be helpful for your daughter also.
09-07-2022 03:17 AM
I was looking for some information when I came across your post - I feel your pain. My 22 year old daughter has accused me of the worst crimes - I don't love her, I don't care if she lives, I am a horrible mother, I love my other daughters more - and on it goes. I also had such a great relationship with her until she hit 18 and the she became someone I do not know. It is only getting worse. I had to block her after a severe outburst to protect myself. The guilt never ends. Could I have done more? Am I the reason? My thoughts and emotions are such a mess. I know in my head what she is saying is not true but my heart is crushed with each word she speaks. I hope your daughter ended up getting help? How are you doing? Much of this illness is a result of abandonment, her father disappeared a few years ago and she felt it most. I was left trying to pick up the pieces and clearly, was not successful. At what point do we forgive ourselves for having to turn away from the abuse?
I pray for all of us in this situation, that somehow, sometime, we find the peace our children refuse to pursue.
09-07-2022 08:23 AM
09-07-2022 03:51 PM
Thank you for sharing your story! I’m sorry to hear that you have been experiencing this, it sounds like it has been a difficult time for you. I just wanted to check in with you to see how you are doing?
09-10-2022 09:33 PM
09-11-2022 11:22 AM
Hi @SoSadMama and thank you for contributing to the Parent's Forum.
I'm so sorry to hear about what you are going through, and thought this article may be of interest to you.
It also has a link to BPD Family, which is the leading online support group for family members of individuals suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder.
Have you been able to access a Mental Health Care Plan through your GP for the family member that you are concerned about?