03-18-2019 04:36 PM
@Jaycee that sounds terrifying. I'm glad that you recovered!
It's important to remember that experiences such as yours are extremely rare, and most people who use weed do not develop psychosis.
04-03-2019 03:57 AM
My heart breaks for you. I know the horrible pain I felt when my daughter ran away. It almost took me over the edge. Do you have any communication with her? Do you know where she is staying?
I really have no advice for that time when your child is gone- it seems like a blur and your living in a fog.
I tried to stay proactive and reach out to all her friends, social media, law enforcement. Beyond that there was not much I could do.
I tried to take care of myself with hot bathes, food in the slow cooker and walks with my head phones on.
sending prayers and hugs. You are not alone and no parent should endure this torture alone.
04-13-2019 04:50 PM
We have not heard from you...has she returned home safely? I am in the same situation with my 16 year old daughter..since she was 14 ..now she found a boyfriend a few months ago and has been staying there at his place..at first she came home to visit but in the last two weeks she has not..if she has returned home try to sort it out love because it can happen again...with my daughter it is ongoing over the last few years...a never ending nightmare...
04-13-2019 05:11 PM
Sunflower mum . Thank you for your tips and understanding....how is your daughter ? It is a terrible situation....sometimes it is hard to find out what the problem is...in my case she says there is no food...her twin brother hurts her..and steals her things..I always buy plenty of food and with her twin brother I cannot do much..usually she is the one who starts..so she is justified to leave..sometimes it can be curiosity too..to stay with other people to see how they live..in my case we don't have any relatives ..it makes it so hard...
04-16-2019 03:24 AM
Um... yeah you are other than not forcing her to go to school... but like... shouldn't you be putting in a little extra effort to help your kid? She strayed from the path somewhere and it's your job to push her back. Maybe you've covered legal responsibilities, but not really moral and emotional.
04-17-2019 09:14 PM
I think as a parent we really do try to cover all the bases, legal, moral emotional. I know for us there were a lot of moral things I questioned. Like shouldn't I be pushing her harder in school, punishments. pot use, etc.
But I can tell you first hand when you sit in an ER several times because your child has self harmed or attempted suicide and you visit her numerous times in many different hospital stays. And you take your child to therapy and support groups every other day for almost 2 years. You have time to think and your priorities really change. You get into a survival mode. I can tell you coming out on the other side of things that now I feel more comfortable enforcing rules like homework, curfew, chores, hygiene, dress code. And I know she is not going to go off the "deep end" when I do these standard parenting things. Life can really turn on a dime when you are in the thick of things. I know I did what I could just to get by and try to keep my daughter safe.
04-23-2019 03:18 PM
08-02-2019 12:50 PM - last edited on 08-02-2019 04:12 PM by Bre-RO
OMG - I am in exactly the same situation. My son was perfectly normal until March 19th this year then completely derailed. He was finding items around the house to use as a weapon. We had a shocking incident one day where he became completely psychotic and threatened to kill me and we had to call the police for help. They ended up placing an AVO on him to protect me. In our case our son still lives at home so the AVO has made the relationship even more tenuous and not really made me feel any safer if I were honest. He is however being treated by a psychiatrist who has put him on medication to level out his moods and this has made a noticeable difference. Perhaps this is something you could consider too? Though getting them to take their medications is of course tricky (especially if they regularly couch surf and don't come home) and is also often counteracted by the 'recreational' drugs they are taking that we don't always know about.
We know we can't stop the drugs but we can make it harder for him to buy them. It seems that $20 is the required amount to get a small amount of marijuana so we never give him more than $10 for anything. We have cut all access to money in the house - I keep my credit cards in my phone case and my phone on me at all times. I've pretty much stopped using cash ever. We've also taken all jewellery and valuables to work and locked them away in a cabinet.
For what it's worth when I work at home I have put into place safety measures. I've also decided that I am not going to let my love for my son (I still remember him from before all this happened) cause me to allow myself to be a victim of domestic violence at his hands. You are well within your rights to set boundaries and protect yourself so don't hesitate to do whatever you feel comfortable with. Best of luck. I hope things start to improve for you.