07-05-2016 10:16 PM
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07-06-2016 06:38 PM
Hi @twentyfive. Welcome aboard.
Kids can just be dicks sometimes can't they! I've got girls, so probably not as full on as boys, but they can still wind each other up. 15 is at that age where they are really trying to make sense of becoming an adult, and it sounds like that is involving him being a shit to his little brother.
I reckon I'd be threatening to withdraw his internet privileges unless he can share with 12, or afford his own internet connection! If you do threaten, you really need to be willing to follow through.
07-07-2016 12:28 PM
So true, @twentyfive - it's so hard to see things sometimes when you're in it. We've got great support and perspective for others, but it's harder to apply that to our own situations.....
07-07-2016 05:04 PM
It's not OK for 15 to bully 12 and you need to make that clear. As the eldest, I used to pull rank on 3 younger sisters. Sometimes I'd get away with it, other times my sisters would dob me in and I'd be punished. So yes siblings do that.
But @readthemanual's idea is great!. I had an idea of making day/time cards and issuing them to each son. Say for example you decide there are 20 (or 200 whatevs!) internet hours per week. Make 20 cards and label them like "Monday 5-6pm" and "Thursday 8-9pm" etc. Each son takes it in turn to select an "Internet Hour". The cards can be swapped by mutual agreement or traded i.e. if one son wants extra internet hours he has to do an agreed chore from the other son's responsibilities.
07-08-2016 12:30 PM
That's true - bullying behaviour is not ok in any circumstances and he does need to learn what is acceptable and what is not. It's important to address it now.
We have some great resources for you @twentyfive
Do let us know if any of these are helpful for you twentyfive!