10-16-2020 08:55 PM
10-16-2020 09:24 PM
Welcome to our forums, and I'm so sorry to hear about what has been going on - it sounds like that your entire family is going through so much right now, with things hardest of all on your daughter. Having to deal with something like a brain tumour is something that would seriously scare anyone, let alone being thirteen as well and not having that same life experience or knowledge that adults might have to try and process this information.
I also disagree with your husband - generally when people self-harm, it is because they are in a lot of emotional stress or pain to the point where they cannot think of any way to deal with it except through physically hurting themselves. Raisingchildren.net.au has a really good article on self-harm in teenagers that might be worth passing to your husband so he can be more aware of how this is impacting your daughter.
I'm glad to hear that you have been able to speak with your daughter about what's been going on; how did that conversation go?
10-16-2020 09:40 PM
10-16-2020 10:26 PM
@Ilovemygirl It sounded like you did a really great job raising the issue with your daughter. You listened to her, and respected her boundaries to find a way you can provide support that she feels comfortable with.
I hope that you can keep us updated on the situation if you feel comfortable doing so, and it sounds like you and your daughter have a really relationship that can keep you supporting her throughout all of this.
10-16-2020 10:57 PM
10-18-2020 06:55 PM
I'm really sorry, Ilovemygirl. It's good that you talked with your daughter but maybe you should visit a specialist? Talk with a doctor and listen to his/her advice. It's very hard situation, especially when the illness is what upsets your child, but conversation is always a good idea. You can also try to pay more attention to her and show her that in this situation not everything is black and white.