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05-01-2017 10:47 AM - edited 05-04-2017 12:17 PM
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05-01-2017 05:50 PM
Hi @johneriffic, my heart goes out to your son, but also to you and your wife. I've had similar issues with my daughter who struggled so much socially at school, and the school even told me on one occasion I'd met with them after she was being bullied, that she needed to toughen up. NOT ok!
She is now educated via distance education as she refused to attend school last year due to the issues she was having there. So we don't have the social problems, but she is lonely as she doesn't often see the one friend who still keeps in contact with her.
I completely get that want to fix everything and make it better. My girl used to be happy, confident and outgoing, and I wish so much I could give that back to her! So I agree that all we can do is love them and be there to listen and support, as others have said, but just wanted to let you know you are not alone in how you are feeling as parents. I've had to take a step back and understand that this is my daughter's journey that she needs to figure things out, but I'm always there to celebrate the happy times, and there to support her through her struggles.
Your son is so lucky to have such loving and caring parents behind him. It may not feel like it at times, but that is the most important thing he needs to help him through these rough years.
I think it was @Sophi-RO who said she didn't believe there was nothing more that can be done, and I believe that wholeheartedly as well. It might take some fails, but there is always help available. No teenager is beyond help! I put myself in your shoes, and to hear there is nothing more to be done must've been extremely upsetting and worrying, and would've made me feel quite helpless - only adding to already existing worry! There IS help and support, don't ever believe otherwise.
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