05-09-2017 07:27 PM - last edited on 05-10-2017 03:53 PM by Ngaio-RO
My son 16 is not getting enough sleep probably 6hrs at night and that is if he is home. He is out all day with his friends and sleeps out about 3-4 nights a week.
Its not ok with me, but all i can do it tell him if he needs me I am only a phone call away. Admittedly he is home by 8pm on the nights i have night shift and stays home to look after the dogs whilst I am working. He only started this about two months ago when he started hanging around a girl that has led him in to more trouble than he was before and i am trying to hold it together but at a loss most times.
05-09-2017 07:39 PM
05-09-2017 07:55 PM
I'm so sorry to hear that @Mum2017
I think what you've offered to your son is a great approach. If he knows he can call you when he needs to, that can make a huge difference to him deciding to not stick around and get in trouble.
Is there anyone in his life that he could talk to about girls etc.? It sounds a bit like he's willing to go to any lengths just to be with this girl. It might be helpful for him to hear from an older male that healthy relationships don't ask you to sacrifice that much.
05-09-2017 08:03 PM
05-09-2017 08:11 PM
It can be really hard raising a young man when you're a woman on your own. I think young men do great with lots of female influences, but it doesn't make things like this very easy to manage.
Do you think he might be into a mentor program or something like that? Does he play or follow any sports?
05-09-2017 08:20 PM
05-09-2017 08:33 PM
Oh that's such a shame that you couldn't get him in. I'm happy to try searching some more mentoring options, even if he says no now he might agree later.
The trip to Thailand sounds amazing. I'm sure just relaxing together will do wonders.
Is he expressing a desire not to go now, since the new girlfriend or is he keen?
05-10-2017 03:58 PM
I hope it's ok that I made this a thread of its own. I just know there are other parents having similar issues who will benefit from reading what you've written as well as parents who have been through this and might have some suggestions on what could work.
@workingdad2 I know your son is a little bit older, do you have any tips Mum2017 could try?
05-10-2017 04:27 PM