10-19-2018 06:50 AM
Thank you @sunflowermom,
Time and patience is something I am going to have to learn, as a parent, we just want to be able to fix everything and I'm not used to not being able to make it better.
It's something I am getting my head around slowly, so I am learning as I go. Finding you all here has been a life line in the last day or so, as I was starting to despair - felt like every door I was pushing was just slamming back in my face.
Thank you. x
10-19-2018 03:09 PM
@jajealch you're welcome - I'm so glad the forum has been a source of support and comfort for you in such a painful and difficult time - there's a lot of wisdom and love accumulated in all the experiences of parents here.
Keep letting us know how you are, and how things are going - we 're here to listen
10-24-2018 09:24 PM
10-24-2018 10:14 PM
I agree with you so much, this site helps us not feel alone. I loved your advice be gentle with yourself and seek any and all advice, be careful with the judgy. I have learned who not to share with. Its been about one year since my daughters first attempt, it has been a roller coaster and I have learned so much along the way about who she is, and honestly who I am.
Hi @jajealch I hope this week is going a little bit better for you. Take it one day at a time- I found it helpful to make a list of my questions for the therapist. You are so right that we want to fix everything for our kids, like when they were babies. Its heartbreaking that we cant. Just be there for him. He knows you love him.
04-24-2019 04:38 AM
My 17 year old (he will be 18 in a week or so) just tried to commit suicide. I am having similar issues to you. My son doesn't want to talk to a therapist and I have no idea why he did what he did. He has IBS so he has really struggled with feeling sick every day because of that and he is graduating soon from school. He seems to not want to grow up and be on his own, but that is my take on it. I feel like he demands a lot from me, but he absolutely won't tell me what he is feeling or what is going on in his head.
I am wondering how it has gone for you and your son and if you were able to make any break throughs?
04-24-2019 05:44 AM
04-24-2019 05:50 AM
Thanks so much for your prompt reply! I think your son is a bit younger than mine. Mine is about to turn 18 so he will be a legal adult. I won't have much pull with him and I want to encourage him to get on his own and be responsible, while at the same time letting him know that I am not abandoning him. It's hard as a single mom.
04-24-2019 06:09 AM
04-25-2019 09:10 PM
I'm sorry it has taken so long to teach out to you this week. I know first hand how scary it is when our child tries to take their life. Is he home with you now? What are you doing to take care of yourself during this tumultuous? time??? I think it is especially hard for boys to reach out with their feeling- but even my daughter would be at a loss for words. Its not that they don't want to tell us. Its that they don't know how. They don't know what they feel. Sometimes they have trouble feeling anything at all.
My son also grew up with IBS all through school. He is almost 30 now. But issues stopped when school did. Now I know it was his anxiety manifesting on hos body. It was a difficult time for him too. But it finally passed.
Hugs to you.....
02-25-2020 04:22 PM
I am in a similar situation with my son and he is refusing meds, and won’t talk to anyone, he is struggling with finding friendships. Can you tell me what you thought helped bring about change in your son. I read something about a mentor earlier, did you try that?