Hi @Kerry36,
You need to do what's best for yours and your sons own situation.
My son is in residential care and schooling during the week and home weekends. Although I wish his behaviours were otherwise and he could be at home with me to live a "normal" life, this is currently not possible. When the situation becomes unmanageable and you are on your own (or without a supportive partner), then respite becomes gratefully embraced. This has been my experience.
The negatives about residential care however are that your teenager can pick up on the behaviours of others which can create a new set of problems. However, if the staff are good, they can work with the family and teenager around this.
Like yourself, I was at a stage where my sons behaviours were out of control. Safety for him was paramount and although far from perfect, I am grateful for the care and support now received.
Remember......it doesn't need to be permanent and you need to do what's best for yourself and your son. If you have tried all other avenues without success (as I had done), I would say to any parent in a similar situation, to accept the help of a residential place. Sad, but necessary.
