12-30-2019 07:12 PM - edited 12-30-2019 07:18 PM
12-30-2019 07:46 PM
Thanks for joining ReachOut!
Eeek. Sounds like your in a bit of a pickle. I can see why you'd be uncomfortable with the idea of your son visiting his mates, especially because they live 6 hours away by public transport. It's definitely not a trip around the corner, is it?
I'm wondering whether you've communicated your concerns to your son, and if so, what has he said?
Have you asked where he will be staying and whether there will be parental supervision?
12-30-2019 10:55 PM
12-31-2019 01:08 PM
12-31-2019 05:30 PM
12-31-2019 11:01 PM
From what I've seen from your thread, it sounds like you are in an incredibly difficult situation. I can really understand your concerns, and how difficult this whole situation must be for both you and your son.
I feel that your compromises of inviting the other boys on a family holiday are actually a really good idea. It is clear that you really love and support your son, and there is a really good chance that you might even be able to be a good role model for the other boys, and be able to encourage all of them to make good decisions.
Additionally, while this isn't 100% related, it might also help the situation, but it could be a good idea to encourage your son to join some clubs/sports/casual job and meet new people. Moving is always really difficult, particularly at such a young age, but now that he has had the opportunity to have some breathing room, he might be more comfortable to branch out and create new connections and relationships. This way he'll be more secure and confident in your new town, as well as less dependent on his old friends.
12-31-2019 11:35 PM