11-02-2018 02:22 PM
My kids told me that their father said to them,”Your mom is suicidal.” My kids are ages 9 and 10. The 9 year old is too young to understand what is suicidal however the 10 year old understands. What should I do? How can I stop him from constantly saying bad things about me?
11-02-2018 03:01 PM
Welcome to ReachOut and thank you for making your first post
I can see that you are interested in hearing from other parents with similar experiences- I hope you find this is a safe and supportive environment here.
Do you want to tell us a little bit more about what is happening?
11-02-2018 03:12 PM
11-02-2018 08:54 PM - edited 11-02-2018 08:54 PM
Hey @Parenting911 that is not okay I am so sorry he is doing this to you & your kids. Do you have a family counsellor or some kind of face to face support? Do your kids have a strong relationship with you and do you feel comfortable unpacking it with them? He's digging himself a hole as the kids will just find this behaviour draining and confusing, if anything it could create distance between himself and them so this is very unfortunate. I am going to tag some of our other members for some input as well
11-23-2018 12:57 PM
Hi my dear,
You can't stop someone from bad mouthing you. All you can do is RISE ABOVE IT.
If you get down and muddy with them - you feed the narrative. So Don't even give him the benefit of a reaction.
Instead beat hate with Love - Show your children - POSITIVE YOU
Example - Have a Kid & Me day - like a Friday or Saturday where you treat the children to dance- beach- just being, cheeky and happy and of course Ice cream
The trick is to spend alot of time being happy with your children - building positive long lasting memories for with them and for them - this way their opinion of you wont be so easily swayed.
Be the Best Queen Mother you can BE!