02-21-2017 02:48 AM - last edited on 02-28-2017 12:25 PM by Ngaio-RO
I just found my 16 yr old son high in the kitchen at 11.30pm on a school night, whilst everyone else was in bed. After denying canabis use to start with, he has now told me that he has been using a few times a week for a few months. He says he buys it at school. I've confiscated his drugs and equipment and phone for the night, but I don't know what to do. I didn't get angry, but just told him how disappointed I am and that it's unacceptable behaviour. I know all teens experiment with drugs and alcohol but using alone in his room and a few times a week to me is frightening.
02-21-2017 06:51 PM
Hey @Jay-9 Welcome to Reach Out.
It can be really unsettling to encounter your teenager high on drugs but I understand when you say that finding out he has been doing it for a while, and usually alone, has left you feeling frightened for his well being.
Well done on your response to him. I worked with young people with drug use issues, and their familes, for a long time and one of the things I always reccommended to parents was to chuck out the drugs when you find them. It's a really simple way for your teenager to get the message about how you feel. It also works as a motivator to not bring drugs into the home.
Clicking here will take you to the Family Drug Support website that has lots of really good information as well as a phoneline you can call to chat to people who have lived experience.
Have you had a chance to chat to him about this since that night?
05-04-2017 11:01 PM
I think that it is necessary to talk to him as an adult, ask the right questions (why he does it and what it gives him)? Give a personal example, tell how you behaved at his age. And try to talk as a friend on an equal footing and not as a teenager