11-09-2022 03:28 PM - last edited on 11-10-2022 01:11 PM by Bre-RO
Cannot stand even the sight of 19yr old step daughter. She moved in a year ago. Got a job finally after 9 Months. The reason she drives me insane is due to her being messy. It does not matter how many times I have reminded her to do her chores and the most basic of things such a cleaning up after herself SO MANY TIMES yet she still does not do it. Partner works away every second week and I have a toddler. I manage to take care of toddler and keep kitchen clean etc.
her room you cannot see the floor and it stinks. She leaves dirty plates and rubbish in her room. She never once does anything around the house to be helpful In anyway. I am cleaning up after her because I’m just sick to death of the same conversation. She has no consequences for her laziness.
All I want is for her to clean up after herself in the kitchen. Do the dishes on her days like she’s supposed to. To stop leaving dirty and visibly soiled clothes in bathroom I have to bathe toddler In. There’s a few others but they are basic. Like do her laundry. But she never does. That is all. But she does nothing. Unless nagged.
So I’m at a point now where I’m going to just say I will not do her any favours at all until she can learn to do these simple things. Partner expects me to still treat her with compassion and care. I want her gone.
Apparently she won’t leave until she saves enough for a car and rent. Which at this rate will be 2030. How do I remain calm. I find my hr rising just thinking about it. I get the shakes when having to confront her on stuff
11-09-2022 07:21 PM - edited 11-09-2022 07:27 PM
11-10-2022 01:25 PM
Hi @Sooverit thanks for sharing this with the online community.
It sounds like the situation with your stepdaughter is really impacting you at the moment. It must be horrible to experience increased heart rate and shaking hands at the thought of it all.
I thought I'd share some resources with you which may help you find a way to navigate communication with your stepdaughter and partner.
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