09-20-2018 02:46 PM
09-24-2018 09:10 AM
I'm certainly no expert but I have 3 teenage daughters and we have dealt with the dating issues too. We have found through our own experience and watching family friends with teenage daughters as well that dating at this age definitely has its pitfalls. It's great that you are looking out for her and helping her navigate all of this! Especially with cell phones, texting and social media, it seems like teenagers more and more expect instant access to friends and boyfriends/girlfriends at all times. It does make it hard with someone like this boy who sounds like he isn't maybe as tied to his phone and texting as other kids his age. I would say that if he demonstrates that he is kind and caring when he interacts with your daughter in person, that his texting missteps be excused to some degree. Maybe if your daughter explains to him that when she doesn't hear back from him she feels dismissed or worried that he is upset with her. He might not even realize how upsetting it is for her when he doesn't respond. In a lot of ways, his amount of contact seems much healthier than a boy who is constantly texting, showing up, calling etc. Teenagers can have a hard time being in relationships without smothering each other. Look at this as a great way to teach your daughter about how to have a healthy relationship and to communicate with her boyfriend. Those are lessons she will take with her as she gets older and will help build her into a confident, happy young woman.
09-24-2018 09:29 PM
Hi @Mom2three thanks for reaching out. I agree with the advice @kokolika has given in that although he may not be texting her frequently, it's great that he is respectful and caring when he interacts with your daughter in person. I'm wondering if she's told him how she feels about not having much contact during the times she doesn't see him and what his response has been? I guess it also depends on what each want from the relationship and hopefully can meet somewhere in the middle She's lucky to have such a caring and supportive mother
09-24-2018 11:21 PM
09-25-2018 11:45 AM
One thing that comes to mind when reading your post is how incredibly resilient your daughter is. Communicating what she is feeling and working with her boyfriend to come to a conclusion about what is happening, and then taking steps to move forward with that relationship shows so much maturity and self awareness Working together on a relationship is one learning curve that many young people in relationships experience, and it sounds like she has really been working hard to maintain the relationship and to work through tough experiences.
I'm sorry to hear that your daughter has had friendship issues- I can imagine that must be really tough for you to watch her go through. The qualities in your that you described will be such an asset to her in future, and also reflect the amazing support you have given her