07-07-2021 09:40 AM
07-07-2021 02:18 PM
Hi @Frances_SJI and welcome to the forums, it’s so great to have you here. I’m really glad you were able to reach out to the community for support. I just wanted to acknowledge how many changes you’ve made in your parenting and how much courage it takes to face those areas where we know we’re struggling.
It’s obvious how much you love your daughter and how much you want to see her thrive.
I’m a parent to teens myself and I understand how hard it can be to know how best to support them, especially when they’re not feeling able to tell you what’s going on for them.
It sounds like your daughter is going through a really hard time right now – is she receiving any professional support at the moment?
In terms of how to support your daughter, you’ve already taken the first (and biggest) step in wanting to be there for her and trying to win her trust.
One thing that I think can be helpful when your child is questioning their sexuality is to try to show that you’re an ally for all LGBTQIA+ people. For example, if you are able to speak positively about people with diverse sexualities, to not allow negative talk or insults in your home, or to share books or tv shows that are positive about different sexualities, this is likely to make home feel like a safer place for your daughter to be herself.
I think it’s completely normal to wish we could protect our children from the negative opinions of others, but unfortunately I’m not sure it’s possible. But by putting in the effort you are to support your daughter and trying to be a safe person for her, you are giving her resources to cope with any negativity she faces.
Here are some links to great resources about supportive parenting, getting help for teenagers and supporting young people with their sexuality or depression on the ReachOut website.
I hope these are helpful, and please feel free to reach out to the community any time because we are here to support you.