10-21-2019 06:54 PM
10-21-2019 10:18 PM
I'm really sorry to hear that you are struggling with a misunderstanding between yourself and your daughter's best friend, it sounds like you've been really strongly affected by the situation.
I can understand that you feel quite distressed about what sounds like a big misunderstanding, and I can really sympathize that your first instinct may be to discuss the situation with your daughter's friend, or at the very least clarify your actions. However, because of how delicate this situation is, I would hold off on communicating with your daughter's friend directly for the moment. Sometimes in sticky situations, any sort of intervention can just intensify everyone's responses, making things more volatile.
I would highly recommend that you keep your communication largely limited between yourself and this girl, and if you do find that you have to communicate, keep it focused as a discussion between yourself and the parent's of your daughter's friend - at least until the situation calms down
10-22-2019 09:35 AM
OK I admit it..
As a middle aged white father I don't get the intricacies of teen girl relationships.
The only thing I can imagine to offer as advice is:
as "Parent" you should not really be part of the teen to teen conversation. Buying into "she said like this" and then "she said like that" is something to avoid.
My experience is parents are the enemy and the truth is first casualty in the generational war.
Support your daughter.. offer her advice on how to handle her relationships but don't directly engage in the relationship and discussions.
Finally remember.. Blood children can do say and do horrible things to their biological parents so don't take it personally if you daughters friend says or does something horrible.