01-26-2019 01:36 AM
Kids are lazy. My daughter too used to urinate in her room. My husband took the door off for a day and told her she has to earn the right to privacy. It's a hard one regarding the internet. I think this is a serious issue that our service providers need to address. We turn our internet off at night and our daughter cannot turn it on without our knowledge. However I feel in your partners case this would not work, as they would bully her until she turns it on.
01-27-2019 09:39 AM
01-29-2019 04:36 PM
01-29-2019 08:56 PM
It sounds like you really are trying everything you can @Hootbayne. I have noticed that when parents put in place a new boundary or plan there seems to be a bit of an escalation of the behaviours to try and test out how far things can be pushed. I hope things settle down soon for you all and in the meantime, how are you looking after yourself? Are there any self-care or support strategies you could put in place for yourself? I can only imagine how exhausted you must be!
01-30-2019 02:37 PM
01-31-2019 08:17 PM - edited 01-31-2019 08:20 PM
Hi @Hootbayne it sounds like you are able to get some down time once you return to work each Monday which is good. It must be hard for your partner but at the same time I'm sure she appreciates the support you have been giving. That must be so difficult that he is refusing to attend sessions. I'm wondering what strategies they have provided and if you are finding it helpful? We're here to listen and support you.
02-01-2019 02:06 PM
02-01-2019 04:56 PM
@Hootbayne Thank you for sharing more of the context with us - sounds like a lot of different factors and things going impacting the current situation.
Glad to hear that there are some supports involved such as other services, and interpreting - these things can help. The language barrier must make communication so difficult for your partner.
The strategies that you've learnt from the sessions, and the perspective sound all really positive!
As does the behaviour and attitude of the 13 yo.
I think its really understandable to worry about the opportunities that they may be missing out on in the future - but it sounds like taking it one step at a time, is a bit more of a helpful way to think about things at the moment?
Have you ever had a direct conversation about all of this with the older son and his thoughts on what might help?