01-25-2018 04:36 PM - last edited on 02-07-2018 03:50 PM by Danielle-RO
Hi, I came across this group when I was searching on google, I have 4 children a son who just turned 19 and 3 girls who are 15,12 and 9, my eldest and youngest daughter both suffer anxiety, the 15hear old has it really bad she has suffered since she was 8 years old, since starting high school she has struggles with her school attendance she gets really bad anxiety attacks and has missed so much school, in saying that she’s quiet bright, her paediatrician reccomended online schooling for her this year, she’s going into year 10, I’ve looked into a few , I want one that is a virtual school where they are still taught by a teacher but online, has anyone done this with their child?
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01-25-2018 09:07 PM - edited 01-25-2018 09:11 PM
Hi @Shep96, welcome to the forum, I'm so glad you found ReachOut.
I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter's anxiety - it can be so disabling, and it's great that she's seeing a paediatrician. I'm wondering if they have ever mentioned counselling as another support for her?
My daughter did distance education for 5 school terms, and finished Year 10 this year just gone. She was struggling immensely with the social side of school, and was refusing to attend which is why she was finally enrolled in distance ed. My daughter is bright too, but was not coping in that environment. In a couple of weeks she is starting her pathway to nursing at TAFE.
For my daughter, distance education was the best thing we did. After a couple of months she was fully engaged back with schoolwork and doing really well, which wouldn't have happened otherwise.
It wasn't virtual schooling, in that she didn't attend virtual classes, but all of her work was done and submitted online, and the teachers are in close contact. All work is marked and feedback given by real teachers, and students can contact their subject teachers at any time, via phone or email. I thought it was run so so well, and my daughter's issues were nothing unusual for them. It was after a catch up at home one afternoon with a teacher that my daughter decided to start working. She's a hard nut to crack, and he cracked her within 15 minutes - awesome people!!
Let us know how you get on
(I hope you don't mind but I moved your post so that it gets more exposure in the forums. I'd hate it to get lost in the introductions.)
I'd also like to invite you to Ab Fab Friday's, our parent chat night. It starts Jan 26th (tomorrow) at 8pm, AEDST. You can follow the link here to join us. I hope you can make it!
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01-26-2018 03:00 PM - last edited on 01-26-2018 03:47 PM by Breez-RO
I'm still working towards getting my daughter back in school. She wants to go but the anxiety and surroundings are too much for her. She would text me while crying uncontrollably in class, then throwing up. She is in her first year of high school. I kept telling her "home school" is not an option and she agreed because she would miss her friends too much. So I thought even if she could go a "partial day: give her a reason to get dressed in the morning- that might work. But so far she has been to school about 3 days since last October. I'm trying not to freak out and I know she needs to get healthy before she can take on school. It still weighs on my mind heavily but I don't tell her that. Are you nervous about your daughter being home alone if she did online school or are you always with her? My daughter self harms. I would be afraid to leave her a few hours a day alone while I am at work.
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01-26-2018 08:37 PM - last edited on 01-26-2018 09:19 PM by taokat
Hi there I am so sorry you and your daughter are struggling It sounds as if things have been tough for you guys recently . I don't know much about virtual schooling I know there is an ACE program in Victoria that helps kids who don't fit in per se . They go to school one day a week and then are supported with homework for the rest of the week .
Anxiety : some things to think about :
1. Challenge her each day to do something that " scares her " Make is small , simple and achievable . Across time this will be so powerful . She will gain confidence and a sense of achievement and mastery .
2. Get her to do daily work sheets on " challenging your negative thoughts " Anxiety is created from fear producing thoughts . If she learns to exercise the " muscle " of intercepting her thoughts and challenging those thoughts with " where is the evidence ? " She will learn to empower herself to deal with her sometimes precarious uncertain environment . Learning to self sooth and replace the negative catastrophic thinking with realist and positive thinking is imperative to anxiety management .
There are some great resources you can find online. Best of luck ! 😊
01-26-2018 09:02 PM - edited 01-26-2018 09:29 PM
Hey @Shep96, yes, thank you, I am proud of my daughter, and so relieved! I think she needed the time to get herself to a place where she can manage better with the world. Everyone used to say to me that her mental health was more important than her education at this point, because if she couldn't function she wasn't going to get an education anyway. That's awesome your daughter wants to be a doctor! She may always have anxiety, but she will learn ways to manage it so it doesn't take over, and I so hope she keeps following that dream.
We're in NSW and my girl was enrolled at Sydney Distance Education High School. I didn't have to do any teaching at all. She had access to her teachers if she needed help, plus they have study hubs and different things at the school you can attend. Teachers kept in contact with me to give me updates. If my daughter was having a particularly tough time I'd let them know to keep them in the loop.
It can be so hard around work @sunflowermom. I had to resign from work as my daughter wasn't safe on her own either, but refused to go to school. My boss was so understanding for as long as he could be, I was so lucky. I really hope you guys can work out a solution that's not so drastic. Is there anybody else that could be with your daughter while you're at work maybe?
I appreciate to talking with others going through this too - it's really comforting knowing we're not the only ones. I felt like I was such a failure because I couldn't get my kid to school. If only I'd known the benefit distance ed would give her, I wouldn't have stressed so much!
Hey @motherbear, i just had to edit your post to remove the link as they need to be pre-approved by ReachOut. Just send it through to the email in the guidelines and they'll check it out