03-26-2023 06:19 PM
03-27-2023 04:21 PM - edited 03-27-2023 04:36 PM
Thank you for sharing this with us. We are sorry to hear that you have been feeling lost and alone recently but really glad that you have been able to reach out on the forums for some support.
I know that you mentioned that your daughter has been participating in behaviours that she knows you don’t like and that you have been trying to approach it differently so that she will be more open with you, I was wondering if you have tried to explain this to her and have a conversation with her about this?
It must be really challenging for her to get annoyed and push you away when it sounds like you are just trying your best to be supportive and create a safe and trusting space for her to be open with you.
Have you been able to talk to anyone about your concerns or receive any support from either a family member, friend, GP or mental health professional?
I’m sorry to hear about the incident with your daughters father. I was wondering whether the co-parenting relationship is otherwise supportive?
How are you feeling today? It sounds like you've had a lot going on recently and I was wondering whether you have have you been able to do anything nice for yourself recently, I remember you had an online painting workshop a few weeks ago and was wondering if you have been able to do anything similar to that recently? Remember that your wellbeing and self-care is very important.
Remember that we are all here for you and that you aren't alone.
03-27-2023 06:57 PM
03-28-2023 03:00 PM - edited 03-28-2023 03:00 PM
Hi @Worriedmun , I'm so sorry to hear that you're doing it tough at the moment. It sounds as though you are trying to be as supportive and compassionate as possible towards your daughter, but that that same understanding is not always reciprocated from her end, which must be a tough thing to experience as a parent.
I can hear that you're trying to balance your concerns for your daughter and her wellbeing with your own needs and feelings right now. You mentioned that you're trying to let go to protect yourself, but that can be an incredibly difficult thing to do when you're a parent as you're always going to worry in some sense about your kids and how they're doing. What would letting go in a healthy way look like for you?
It sounds like your interaction with the mental health team didn't go quite as you'd hoped - I'm sorry it wasn't more useful. While advice about letting go is lovely in theory, knowing how is a much trickier question. It sounds as though you might benefit from having an opportunity to talk this through with someone face-to-face so that they can give you some tools to cope with looking out for your daughter while also taking care of yourself. Have you given any thought to the idea of seeing a psychologist? If you need help finding one in your local area, you can check out the Australian Psychological Society's Find a Psychologist search engine. Alternatively, Ask Izzy offers some great resources and service suggestions based on the kind of support you think would be most useful for you right now, so feel free to take a look there as well.
Sending all my best your way @Worriedmun . I'm going to check in with you via email as well, so keep an eye on your inbox
04-01-2023 09:26 PM
04-02-2023 10:46 AM
Hey @Worriedmun It certainly sounds like things are stressful at the moment. Taking the first steps can be the hardest but it's important to look after yourself too, so you can look after your daughter. Mindspot have some accessible resources, however you did mention not needing more work to do and I can relate to that. Wondering if you have tried parentline for advice? Depending on where you are based, there can also be state specific parent lines. Have you had a read through ReachOut's resources stress and teenagers?
Let us know how you go, All the best
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