12-06-2018 10:31 AM - last edited on 01-15-2019 01:17 PM by gina-Ro
My son hates me and he always thinks that I am intended to hurt him on porpus.
He shout and swear at me
I feel miserable, don't know what to do
12-06-2018 02:43 PM
12-06-2018 11:14 PM
I know its terribly hurtful when our children lash out at us in inappropriate ways. If my daughter says something to me that is rude or disrespectful I tell her- "You can be mad but you cant shout hurtful disrespectful things. Its incredibly rude and it hurts my feelings. I do not deserve that even if you are angry."
Please know your son does love you. He is just frustrated and probably thinks its the quickest way to get a reaction from you. Are you able to not show a negative response and just step away from the encounter? Sometimes not showing emotion after the outburst can bring it to a close faster.
Even if my daughter is acting out I stay calm and don't react and yell back. Lately I am trying to model the behavior I would like to see from her. Like calm conversation, thinking before I react to a situation, and apologizing if I do something not intended or insensitive to her. Its one way I can parent even if I have no control over the actual situation.
I agree with @Jay-RO to share your feelings with someone like a friend or a counselor- don't keep hurt inside because it can fester. Do something nice for yourself too. I like to read in my car where I wont get interrupted.
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