Hello Bradders,
I had a similar situation on my hands when my son came out as bisexual a few years ago. I found myself thinking what types of rules I'd need to keep him safe, but not limit his self expression or ability to date. I wouldn't say that I "found a perfect solution," but here is what I did, and for the most part, it seemed to work.
With sleepovers, we had two rules: 1) I needed to meet the person before a sleepover was planned (have them over for dinner), 2) I needed to meet the person's parents before a sleepover was planned (at least speak with them over the phone),
In addition, my son and I had a lot of heart to heart talks (about sex, love, and relationships). I felt that if I trusted my son, knew his friend/significant other, and was acquainted with their parents, then having a sleepover was as safe as it was ever going to be.
Truthfully, teens will find a way to do what they want, no matter what you do. I know I did ; ) So, instead of trying to control him, I decided to guide him to do what he wanted in the safest way possible.
I hope this helps.
Bryn.
