05-10-2016 11:08 PM - last edited on 05-19-2016 02:34 PM by Sophie-RO
I'm a dad to two great young ppl who have Aspergers. A daughter now 18 and son 19. They're like chalk and cheese, introvert, extrovert, socially awkward , everything.. I've developed my own ways to help them along with life lessons, academically, tantrums and the tiaras. It's been 13 years since the first diagnosis and when I read the report I was overwhelmed. I read up as much as I could online and library books to learn what I needed. To do to give my kids the best chance to succeed. There wasn't the early intervention help there is now, I just winged it seeing what did/didn't work for us.
for me the basics were be truthful with answers to the awkward questions , if you don't know it Google it together and learn something new too. I learnt not to yell, hard when you're upset I know, just talk plain and simple. My ex was a screamer to which the kids took no notice , I went to them and spoke normally and got the required result. There's lots more to share but I'd like to know from other parents of Aspies what works/worked for them.
It ain't easy. Poppa bear
05-11-2016 12:41 PM
05-11-2016 01:56 PM - edited 05-11-2016 01:57 PM
When my son was a toddler I worked part-time as a nanny to a 10-y-o girl and an 13-y-o boy. He had Aspergers so I checked Dr Google but was also well-versed by his parents about keeping to routines and what was and wasn't acceptable behaviour.
I loved him, I learned to share his "I can talk about this subject for 5 hours straight" hobbies and I made sure to always drive the same route home etc etc.
I stayed for 2 years as the family allowed me to bring my toddler with me - even got him a carseat. God it was so exhausting some days responding to the "Why?" and "But Mum lets me do that". In the end that was the problem, As a paid carer I was bound by agreed rules, timetables, expectations. Whereas sometimes those same things were flexible where the parents were concerned.
I really believe if the parents had enforced the same things they insisted I enforce, it would have been less confusing for their son.
Easy for me say! Anyway @Poppa_bear I salute you.
05-15-2016 09:11 PM
05-16-2016 04:48 PM - edited 05-16-2016 04:49 PM
Hi guys, I've just reading up on the autism spectrum and Aspergers and saw that depression and anxiety is sadly all to common. The good news is that there is lots families can do to boost wellbeing and foster positive mental health... Including encouraging self-determination and independence in teenagers, having strong/stable family relationships, encouraging movement/physical activities, good sleep habits, and working on resilience.
Something we ALL can do is to have zero-tolerance for bullying and work against it where ever we are! Work, home, school, public etc!
I got this info from
06-01-2016 08:20 PM
06-01-2016 08:35 PM
06-01-2016 08:57 PM
It sure anin't easy!
But I don't know if you had used some of the services that came with medicare in Australia. I have a friend who's son has Aspergers. The family got lots of help and when he was enrolled into one of the selective schools, the government actually send out people to do workshops with his peers. My friend was great and she accumulated a lot of knowledge about Aspergers. Her son survived teenage years and is now happily at uni! And before that, he got free lessons to help him get into the adult life on things like financial planning etc.
So don't forget that Australian government agencies are there to help.
06-01-2016 10:21 PM