05-07-2019 03:01 PM - edited 05-07-2019 03:55 PM
Parent question: My 15yr old daughter keeps taking things that are not hers and using it without asking. She's rude and aggressive most of the time. When I ask her why she keeps doing those things she told me she doesn't like any of us, which is her family, and she thinks she hates me. I asked her why and she said no reason. What is really going on in her head because it's affecting her school and our household?
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What do you / would you say to your teen saying they hate you?
05-07-2019 03:45 PM
I love the answer from our youth volunteer above -such a good insight, that often when someone is really angry at you, the reason is not related to you.
I also want to add that this seems like a really common experience for mothers / parents and daughters - the late teen years are a common time for this relationship to break down and experience a lot of hard emotions. I think the mother-daughter relationship can be a really complicated one.
An important thing to keep doing as a parent, is to be consistent and keep showing love and care. Often the anger a teenager feels or expresses, is related to some other tough feelings they are having about themselves, or their life generally.
There are a lot of changes going on for teens, and a lot of pressure and soul-searching. It's not an easy time.
For the parent that posted this, please continue to reach out for support. It's really challenging to have a child say they hate you, and I can't imagine how hurtful it would be. You can call the Parents Line to get advice over the phone. You may also want to reach out to a counselor or psychologist to get your own support on this issue.
If any other parents have insights onto this issue, please post here.
05-11-2019 04:19 PM - last edited on 05-14-2019 04:51 PM by gina-Ro