06-09-2020 03:51 PM
06-10-2020 12:47 PM
Hi @Cloudy ,
That sounds like a really tough situation with your parents in law, do you mind if I ask how old your baby is? It sounds really frustrating having people give you advice that could be unsafe like putting a dummy in whiskey, parenting has definitely changed a lot over the last 40 years and I think you're totally within your rights to be firm about your boundaries, especially when it comes to safety.
It sounds like your partner may need to set some strong boundaries with his family- have the two of you had many discussions about that at all? It may be helpful to have a discussion about what things would be non-negotiable for you if his parents were to look after your child (for example not swearing, not leaving the baby to cry). But ultimately if you don't feel comfortable leaving your child in their care, that is okay too. Do you think shorter visits could help you feel more comfortable with them?
Another service that could be helpful if you feel like it could be useful to talk this over with an experienced counsellor is parentsline, you can reach them on 13 22 89, from 8am to midnight, 7 days of the week
06-10-2020 04:28 PM
06-12-2020 12:22 PM
09-04-2020 06:52 AM - last edited on 10-09-2020 02:25 PM by Jess1-RO
What a nightmare! I'm so sorry you're in this situation. In all honesty, family is family though and they do sound like great people, maybe just a bit rough around the edges.
As a child my husband Mel apparently was left alone for long periods of time with access to various this that are unsafe for kids to play with. He told me all this and how he feels it made him a stronger person. That's obviously not true as he is a liar. BUT there may be SOME truth to it.
The "it builds character" excuse is tired and trite but perhaps sitting down with these people and expressing your concerns while talking it out could be beneficial.