06-26-2017 10:02 PM
06-26-2017 10:28 PM
Hi @Debbr29 wow I can imagine this is a very painful, confusing situation. You mentioned your son creeps around, do you mean your house? It sounds like both of you have really been affected by this fight.. Do you know much about his health and wellbeing via the GF's parents?
I am wondering if writing him a letter would help at all, or asking if he would sit down with you and a third person to mediate, even if you could start small; like catching up for lunch once a week again? Another really good resource for you could be Relationships Aus [click here] who can provide some counselling around the current situation, it's important you feel supported throughout this.
Hopefully some of the other parents will jump in with their ideas soon, will continue speaking soon
06-26-2017 10:37 PM
06-27-2017 02:08 PM
Hi @Debbr29, I sympathize with you and feel your pain. You seem to be doing all the right things, keep writing him letters, he needs to know you will always be there. It must be hard for your daughter also. I have experienced a similar situation and the heartache and pressure on other family members is enormous. If it helps, in my experience the person who left home did return after three years.
06-27-2017 04:50 PM
06-27-2017 05:10 PM
06-27-2017 05:14 PM
06-27-2017 05:36 PM
That's very tricky. I feel for you very much.
It might not appeal to you, so feel free to ignore this suggestion, but what if you wrote again, to the parents and girlfriend and thanked them for caring for your son. Then, instead of explaining how much damage they've done to your family you could explain how much you miss him and how you want a chance to re-connect with him.
Basically trying to turn them into allies rather than enemies.
Could something like that work?
06-27-2017 05:40 PM
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