04-17-2018 05:25 PM - edited 04-17-2018 05:30 PM
04-21-2018 06:35 AM - last edited on 04-28-2018 12:20 AM by taokat
1.I’m a mother to 4 children, 22,20,18&14.
2. I try to keep a sense of humour or just get drunk 😌 Just kidding
3. My 14 year old is struggling at school and just revealed to me that she has tried harming herself to release the tension.
4. Keep communication open. Let them know they can always talk to you, no matter what. And when they do, DON’T react, just listen, assure them you’re there for them. Then go scream in a pillow, cry in the shower and get advise if you don’t have the tools to handle the situation.
5. Not working! Movies, laying in bed, hanging out.
05-02-2018 11:02 PM
05-03-2018 02:48 PM
@Realistic1 - We are so so glad that you have found us here on the forum.
Thank you for sharing some of your experience with us - as you've said, you are absolutely not alone.
You will have a lot of insight and experience to share with us here, and I hope that we are able to offer you some support and a 'listening ear' as well.
Sounds like you've already had a look around the forums, but you might be interested in looking at some of our daily threads such as our grateful one (a helpful and some days surprisingly challenging exercise) , and self-care one (also a challenge to all parents to think about their own care) .
We have weekly discussions about different issues. Last week's was on self care , and this week is how to respond and support if your teen is self-harming. Jump in if you feel comfortable.
Looking forward to seeing you around the forums
05-11-2018 12:05 AM
05-18-2018 04:08 PM - last edited on 05-19-2018 02:51 PM by taokat
I am not a child psychologist nor a parenting expert with lengthy credentials. But I am a parent who has experienced a great leap in my relationship with children over the years and I am still growing at it. I am neck deep if not body deep into children development and comfort, I take the high road of conscious choice in this new paradigm of parenting.
Interacting with children is not a one -off-go and get it right event but it is a commitment toward nurturing internal qualities and values and that takes a lot longer than simply demanding that the room be cleaned this instant or get the trash taken out this minute.
What I am about to share with you in the next few days is not all on me. I refuse to take credit of all because I stood aside to observe and learn, attended trainings: formal and informal, read books and all that is to it.
This is what I received as impact and experiences from LIFE. I will try to be simply as possible in my delivery so you can have something to take with you everytime.
I have always be involved with children but it took a different turn when I volunteered to be a worker in the children ministry of the fastest growing church in the world. I went on with children development when I applied to be a teacher in a mission school. It did not take long my contribution and excellent performance was recognized. I was handed a different school to run but I left after a road accident;i was pregnant, God saved me and the baby. Later, I started supporting schools and parents by providing resources for them. She is growing beyond my expectations.
I have taken dramatic turns in life; schools I attended, marriage, child bearing, being a worker in children ministry, applying for a job as head teacher, leading a school management, leading a business and many other turns. All these turns led me to this forum. I am so grateful for those turns.
Now taking this journey with you as we walk out of the fog of simply reacting to situation, never understanding that we have a choice in every reaction we had, every action we took. We should take the high road together.
I end this post with a quote from John Luther;
"Good character is more to be praised than outstanding talent. Most talents are to some extent, a gift. Good character by contrast, is not given to us. We have to build it piece by piece - by thought, choice, courage and determination"
So I stay with this forum! And watching out for the next piece. Inviting other parent to join us on this journey.
05-19-2018 03:08 PM
Hi @Gracioustsward and welcome to the forum.
I have just edited your post to keep in line with the community guidelines that you can read here. We don't actually promote any specific religion or commercial ventures in the forum, but are happy for all parents to share their parenting experiences and what has worked for them in the varying situations we find ourselves in as mums and dads.
Being an Australian site our resources are also local but general support is universal so we are happy to support you however we can.