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Any other 14 year olds disruptive in class and attention seeking behaviors in class?

 

My 14 year old son has always been considered the “class clown”. He is very over the top dramatic by nature.  I was hoping this behaviour would sort of mellow out in time as last school year was terrible.  Call after call and email after email from teachers, principals and counsellors regarding his disruptive and defiant behavior in the classroom.  I was glad when summer holidays was here.  Now only 3 weeks into the school year already his teachers are complaining about his disruptive behavior in the classroom which is distracting other kids and potentially hurting his learning in the classroom.  I feel that this behavior from him is immature and very much attention seeking, he’s always been attention seeking.

 

I have had him assessed and there is nothing developmentally wrong with him. He has been ongoing seeing a counsellor and now a psychologist which helps with some things but doesn’t seem to be helping in the classroom. 

 

Any other parents of teens in the same situation? He can’t be the only one. 

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Re: Any other 14 year olds disruptive in class and attention seeking behaviors in class?

Hi @thistooshalpass this situation must be so frustrating I know exactly how you are feeling.  My youngest son sounds very similar.  He was actually quite bright especially at maths and science but something happened when he turned 14 and he stopped being so competitive and started not going to school classes (he would hang out behind the school toilets), became disruptive when in class and the endless phone calls from teachers and meetings I had was embarrassing.  This went on for the next two years.  When he was 16 we helped him obtain an apprenticeship and he left school. Things changed dramatically.  He matured over night and has remained focused.  However I would like to mention that for us punishment never really worked ie not giving money or grounding him.  He did what he was told but his attitude towards school didn't change.  We tried to only praise good things he did, I offered to buy him a new skate board if he attended every class for a month, the things we tried were endless.  There is hope and your son will be OK because he has a caring parent.

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Re: Any other 14 year olds disruptive in class and attention seeking behaviors in class?

Hey there @thistooshalpass, sounds challenging, thank you for sharing this. Have you sat down and asked him why he feels the need to disrupt? My younger brother is having massive issues and we found asking open ended questions really helped get to the core of the issue.

Initially we got a lot of "I don't know's" which turned into "I don't understand the work" which turned into "I am embarrassed I don't understand the work". It was interesting to learn what his in-class triggers were.

It's so good that your son is seeing a counsellor ongoing, I am sorry to hear it's not improving the classroom learning habits.

 

Can I ask, what is he like studying one-on-one or alone? Is it just a group dynamic? Look forward to hearing from you.

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Re: Any other 14 year olds disruptive in class and attention seeking behaviors in class?

Thank you so much for the response. When working with someone one on one sometimes he likes to claim he doesn't understand and gets distracted easily. When he's working on his own he can be productive if he fully understands what he is to be doing but due to his attention seeking behaviour during class he often misses directions so struggles when it's time to do the work and then chooses to do everything BUT the work.

I have a meeting set up with his teacher this week. I'm hoping it helps.
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Re: Any other 14 year olds disruptive in class and attention seeking behaviors in class?

Thank you. I do like to focus on the good and praise him whenever I can for it. I too think it's important. He's been like this in school since I can remember so I'm just really hoping he grows up enough really soon to behave like the other kids when he's around them. I never want him to stop being himself ever cause I think he's amazing. Just mature enough to know when it's important to listen and buckle down to get work done.
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Re: Any other 14 year olds disruptive in class and attention seeking behaviors in class?

Hey @thistooshalpass, I just had a thought reading through your post that may seem left field. Have you had his hearing and eyesight checked out? 

 

It's a long time ago now, but my brother was very disruptive in the classroom too until it was discovered he had hearing problems, so I just thought I'd throw that in as a possibility. 

 

It must be very stressful for you. Do you manage to make the time to practice self care to keep you going?

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Re: Any other 14 year olds disruptive in class and attention seeking behaviors in class?

Hi

Just wondered if you had any resolution on your 14 year old? I'm going through exactly the same thing and I'm at my wits end knowing what to do with my 14 year old
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Re: Any other 14 year olds disruptive in class and attention seeking behaviors in class?

Hi @Mumsy welcome to ReachOut. I'm sorry to hear that you are going through the same thing with your 14 year old, it sounds like you're struggling. I'm wondering if you have spoken to a Counsellor or School Counsellor about this? What specifically has been happening for you and your son or daughter? As this is an older thread, please feel free to post a new one which will allow other members to see it and provide some support. We're here for you Heart