05-18-2017 04:26 PM
Welcome @backup! What an awesome reason and meaning behind your username. Love your thinking! That is a fantastic adventure for your daughter!
It's lovely to meet you and to have you in the forums.
05-21-2017 10:05 PM
Hi @Ginger, welcome to the forum. It sounds like you have a lot to deal with at the moment. I hope your appointment with CAMHS is coming up soon. Does his father go to these appointments with you? It may be something to suggest to him if you haven't already. The CAMHS team can maybe help him with his understanding of it all.
It's so sad when we feel we are losing our good relationship with our kids. There are some awesome threads on here about communication you may find helpful.
You have come to very supportive place. Sometimes life does suck! Being amongst others who understand has been a great help for me. We're very happy to have you here
05-22-2017 10:12 AM
05-22-2017 11:49 AM
Hi @Trapet Welcome to ReachOut Parents!! I'm so sorry you've been doing it so tough for so long. You're clearly a devoted and loving parent but it doesn't mean it's not exhausting. There are many parents here who describe that feeling of being bone-tired and weary beyond belief.
So if hearing from other parents who have 'been there' then you are absolutely in the right place!!
My suggestion is for you to start a topic about your situation so it doesn't get lost in here with the introductions.
If you click here it should take you straight to a page to begin on.
We're so happy to have you. We hope you stick around.
05-23-2017 08:47 AM
1) I'm a single parent of two teenagers - 16 and a 15 year old. They constantly make me laugh (sometimes intentionally, other times out of frustration :])
2) Laughter is key to getting through stressful times of which there has been a bit of particularly regarding my son. Thankfully in my household we have the ability to laugh at ourselves
3) I've really benefited from ReachOut's services such as the online parenting coaching and would like to help other parents
4) There is help out there and sometimes just speaking with other parents who are non judgemental can really help. Every child is different and so there's no one size fits all approach to parenting teenagers even within the same household
5) No schedules, slow cooking, binge watching or reading!
05-23-2017 04:27 PM
05-29-2017 12:13 PM
Welcome to our newest members:
1. How old are your kids and what is one thing they've done recently that made you laugh?
2. Parenting can be really stressful - how do you try to keep those stress levels down?
3. What led you to ReachOut Parents today?
4. Whats your top tip for parents whose kids are about to enter teenage years?
5. Whats the best thing about weekends?
05-31-2017 06:14 PM
05-31-2017 09:31 PM
Hi ... A bit about me:
i have three kids aged 20, 18 and 16. My ex and I still have regular family dinners with the kids, and sometimes the sum total of conversation is the kids reading out random stuff from Reddit, like the boy who will rate out of 10 the taste of anything eaten over rice.
I deal with parenting stress by talking to my friends and when I can, spending unstructured time on my own with absolutely nothing to do.
I've been raising my kids in a co-parenting arrangement with their dad for six years now, right through the teenage years, and somehow we've managed to make it work. I'd be happy to support others if I could as it's the support of friends that gets you through.
My advice to parents whose kids are becoming teenagers is to sit and actively listen to what they say to you, listen carefully to their words cos as they get older they say less and less about their true feelings. Give them the chance to say what they think without interruption, cos they are learning how to express themselves like adults and it takes a long time to become good at it! I wish I had been given that advice that sooner.
Best thing about weekends is sleeping in ... in my dreams that is :-)
05-31-2017 11:41 PM