04-17-2019 01:18 PM - edited 04-17-2019 01:24 PM
I didn't want to divert the conversation from the topic but was interested in what @JAKGR8 was talking about.
I found an online reference that talked about how it works https://responsiblethinking.com/how-the-rtp-process-works/. I found all of that really interesting but hard to follow, luckily someone has put it into a simple flow chart with the basic questions outlined in order.
While not having anything formal like this when I was raising my children, some of the questions reminded me of the discussions I had when the kids were little. I still remember my son insisting on receiving the consequences of his bad behaviour even when I wanted to "commute his sentence".
The worst was when I broke a rule and they used the same things on me!
04-17-2019 02:54 PM
Thank you for resharing this! I love seeing the resources our community have been looking at.
I have just embedded the flow chart here so everyone can see it on this thread:
It sounds like you have used something similar before @PapaBill. Did you notice any changes in your kids behaviours after having similar conversations?
Would love to hear from other parents whether you have used something like this before? How did having conversations about learning responsibility of behaviour play out in your families?
04-17-2019 02:56 PM
I love the theory behind this Process @PapaBill Unfortunately, a lot of adults have a lot of trouble releasing ‘control’ of others behaviour and the Process fails for many schools and families. I had the privilege of listening to Ed Ford and Tom Bourbon speak about 20 years ago and they made it all seem so clear.
Here is a video Tim Carey reproduces on basic PCT.
04-17-2019 02:59 PM
04-17-2019 03:06 PM - edited 04-17-2019 03:14 PM
When I was as new dad I was always on the look out for GOOD parenting advice.
I knew I didn't want to be like my dad (who was from the feed them spank them and you a good dad days)
A couple of truisms I latched onto were
It not only helped my kids learn to make choices it helped me learn to let them make the choices..
Letting them choose between Red vs green top at 2 taught me as much as it did them and prepared us both for later when they had bigger choices to make.
We found it worked for us..My Daughter still remembers if from her terrible twos.. how we were consistent in applying our version of this.
Today she jokes "I still remember that bloody naughter corner followed me everywhere"
04-23-2019 01:07 PM
I really love this sentence "Listen to the little things when they are little and they will tell you the big things when they are big" - a really valuable focus! Building that trust early and consistently can be really helpful in later adolescence