09-19-2019 03:44 PM - edited 09-19-2019 03:48 PM
It can be really easy to get swept up in the chaos of life - work, appointments, school and extended familial responsibilities. As hard as we try to fit everything in sometimes good quality time with our loved ones falls to the bottom of the list.
Quality time is great for catching up on non-serious issues, learning more about your teen and how they are changing. It can also be a good chance to role model healthy habits and encourage both of your well-being.
I thought we could use this weeks well-being activity as a time to share ideas and tips for quality time. To get us started here are some of my thoughts:
There are also some examples here of relaxing activities you could try with your teen as well.
Share a memory of quality time spent with your teen and how that strengthened your relationship?
Do you have some tips for quality time activities?
09-20-2019 10:20 AM - edited 09-20-2019 10:23 AM
I find the best way to spend time with my older teens is to do chores together.
Once a fortnight we have an hour or two doing house hold chores.
Cleaning, Gardening, home improvement it doesn't matter so much what it is as doing it together.
The upsides of this are many
The things that make this work for us are
It was funny last weekend when I tried to add an extra task (cleaning the windows) with a spay bottle that goes on the end of the hose.
I was trying to tell my daughter it would be fun .. she just looked down her nose at me and said "Dad we are too old to tricked into doing chores by you telling us it will be fun"
Oh well it worked for a few years
09-23-2019 02:19 PM
I really enjoyed reading through your post- it sounds like you have found a way to spend time with your teens that both promotes responsibility and is sustainable over time
You mentioned a few really key strategies such as having an agreed time. I'd be interested to know if this is something you started with, or worked out over time was more effective?
09-23-2019 02:27 PM
Most of the strategies evolved over time.. specifically the time scheduling and limiting of activities.
Both myself and children benefit from know what is happening in advance.
are ones I have used since they were tiny and I was explaining to them why the toys had to go back in the box when they were going to bed.