11-10-2021 03:55 AM
11-10-2021 02:03 PM
Hi @Halogirl85 and welcome to the forums.
It sounds like you, your partner and your stepson are going through a really tough time.
It seems you've tried to invest in the relationship with your stepson over the years, and you have supported him financially and emotionally, but it sounds like you're feeling quite burnt out at this point - is that right?
You mentioned that your partner is also struggling - is she still able to see her son and support him in the ways she'd like to?
I'm not sure if it helps at all, but a lot of behaviours such as excessive screen use and not contributing to the household can be quite common for teenagers - that doesn't mean it's never frustrating though.
It sounds like your stepson is safe living with his father (is that right?) so taking some time for some breathing space sounds like it might be helpful - these things can be short or long term, there are no rules about it and relationships can change with time.
I'm wondering if your family has considered accessing any professional support (eg family counselling, or counselling for your stepson) if that feels like it could help?
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