a week ago
a week ago - last edited a week ago
Hey @Parentmind, thank you for sharing. It is great to hear that your son is feeling comfortable and that the regular meetings are going well. Please correct me if I am wrong but it seems like you did not have much contact with his father and so this is quite sudden for you and that your relationship prior to that was filled with negativity, is that right? If so, I imagine that this must be challenging, new and unusual for you!
You mentioned being unsure how to go about the situation. It really is a personal choice with a lot to consider. What are you feeling concerned about in this situation? Do you think you will feel comfortable with unsupervised visits in the future? Would you like more supervised visits before moving on to unsupervised visits?
a week ago
a week ago
Thanks for getting back to us, really good to hear from you and get some more information around where things are at for your family.
I really want to reassure you that you absolutely are not doing an awful thing by allowing your biological sons father to be in his life. It is completely understandable why you would want them to be in each others lives, and I think it's really beautiful how much you value your sons relationship with his half-brother - it is clear you are putting their needs above others and your love for these kids comes through so strongly in how you've spoken about what is happening
It must be very tough not being able to have open conversations with your partner about how you're feeling regarding your son being in his biological fathers life. It makes sense why he would be protective, but it is also fair that you want your son to know his biological dad and half-brother, have you been able to frame the conversation in this way?
You said you are looking for answers around why you shouldn't allow unsupervised time, how are you feeling about the prospect of this? It sounds like you are becoming more comfortable with this idea but your partner is not, is that right?
This is a really tricky situation @Parentmind, and we're here to support you. I feel like you are really doing your best to be mindful of the feelings of everyone involved in this I hope you are able to take some time to do something nice for yourself