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Re: Having struggles with my 13yr old daughter

Hi @Moloko it's great to hear that you are having a lovely day with your daughter and that she is feeling happy and settled Smiley Happy Teenage years are such a roller coaster ride so it's wonderful when you are able to have days like today. I'm sorry to hear you have felt a bit judged by other parents. It's great that you are able to talk with friends that keep it real and tell it like it is by sharing their own struggles. We're always here to listen Heart

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Re: Having struggles with my 13yr old daughter

@Lan-RO
I am so grateful for this page and the wonderful advice and support that is here.

Yes it's great when they are happy and settled, I think it allows you as a parent to just take a moment to breath. We have actually had a great week which has been so lovely. Lots of talking, listening on my part. I absolutely think the class move to be with her peers has been one of the most positive things we have done. Shes happy so she is learning.
I think the friendship conflicts will continue and those are her lessons to learn and I just have to try and be here and listen and support.
Hopefully she will give counseling a go and gain some tools to help her.
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Re: Having struggles with my 13yr old daughter

So how is everything going with your daughter as this was from awhile ago.  Wow reading this it sounds so much like what my 14 year old is going through right now.  Mine too went from a bubbly kid to a sullen, quiet, and  acting out.  Now  in the morning she won’t eat breakfast and also with the fake sicknesses.   She confided in me finally and a similar situation at school.  She wants to homeschool but my husband said no but have to look at other options if this continues.  She is being teased, excluded, etc..

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Re: Having struggles with my 13yr old daughter

So how is everything going with your daughter as this was from awhile ago.  Wow reading this it sounds so much like what my 14 year old is going through right now.  Mine too went from a bubbly kid to a sullen, quiet, and  acting out.  Now  in the morning she won’t eat breakfast and also with the fake sicknesses.   She confided in me finally and a similar situation at school.  She wants to homeschool but my husband said no but have to look at other options if this continues.  She is being teased, excluded, etc..

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Re: Having struggles with my 13yr old daughter

@Ginger9708
Thanks for your message and thanks for asking.
Things are actually going really well. My daughter had a pretty good end of her year academically and is much happier and settled in her new class, which transfers over to home.
She still has friendship struggles and conflicts but I am trying to still just listen and only give advice if she asks, learning how to manage her friendships is something she has to do herself and she learns valuable lessons along the way. It seems at this age there are a lot of dramas especially with girls. 😭
She is going to do counseling which I hope helps.
We still have the odd outburst and pushing boundaries but on a whole she is a lot more calm and we have gotten a lot closer and our trust in each other is something we both value very much.
It's been a difficult journey over the last 18 months, moving schools etc
And I'm sure we will have more hurdles to overcome over the next few years, but it was a decision we do not regret. She is a lot stronger and more resilient because if everything she has been through.
I feel for you and your daughter as it's hard to see your child hurting at the actions of others. For us moving her to a bigger school allowed her to choose her own friends and if they did have conflicts she could just go hang with other friends, her old school was very small so she had no where to go which was the main cause of how isolated she felt.

Please let me know how you get on with your daughter and if there is any way I can help.