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Re: daughter hostialized twice for suicidal intentions- im grieving

Hi @sunflowermom,

I'm glad to hear this week has been a better week for you!

I think you raise a really great point about recovery for young people and families where there is an experience of mental illness. Recovery is exactly as you said; moment by moment. It's a process of learning and growing through experience.

Recovery happens for a lot of young people, particularly the young people like your daughter who have the incredible support you give her Heart Many young people who seek support and learn how to manage their well being can go on to live meaningful and contributing lives. I hold a lot of hope for you and your daughter, and it sounds like she has been making lots of great progress Smiley Happy So glad to hear you are feeling that hope too Heart

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Re: daughter hostialized twice for suicidal intentions- im grieving

Thank you @Jess1-RO Your kind words and support are so appreciated Smiley Happy

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Ditto to all @Jess1-RO said! Heart

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We are having a rough go lately.  My daughter has become really depressed again.  She admits she has nothing to be depressed about and I try to explain that's not always how depression works.  Sometimes it just happens.  We are seeing her Psychiatrist this week where maybe her meds will be adjusted (again.....ughhh)   I am still hopeful it will help.  It hurts my heart to see my daughter struggling daily.

The good news is she is not self harming or using pot to mask her emotions-  so its out there without coverups or band aids and its raw.

Today I took the day off work and I am getting a massage and then taking both my daughters to lunch and school shopping at the mall.  I am really hopeful for an enjoyable afternoon and I hope it brings my daughter some joy too.

 

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Re: daughter hostialized twice for suicidal intentions- im grieving

Hey @sunflowermom, sorry to hear that things are not going smoothly at the moment. I can hear how much compassion you have for your daughter and you are always so proud in acknowledging her achievements. It is only natural for this then to hurt when you see her struggling. It is great that you are seeking more support for your daughter and for yourself as well! I hope the joy rubs off too. Keep us updated Heart

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I’m so sorry to hear @sunflowermom. You’re so right, depression doesn’t need a reason, and it can be frustrating because sometimes the best you can do is ride it out. It struck me though how wonderful it is that your daughter is able to recognise her emotions, whether there is a cause for them or whether they’re purely her depression. Even better she is facing those unpleasant feelings instead of masking them. That is massive and your continuing love and support is enabling her to explore them with you. 

 

It is heartbreaking seeing our kids struggling and riding this roller coaster with them. I hope you enjoyed your massage, you so deserve it! Heart

 

How did your afternoon go with the girls? 

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Re: daughter hostialized twice for suicidal intentions- im grieving

Thank you @taokat and @Taylor-RO

We had a really nice shopping day.  The girls were happy to get some nice things to start school with.  We had a couple more tense moments but I could see compromise both daughters were making for each other.  Like being patient while one shopped in a specific store that the other was not interested in.  It was big growth on both their parts.

By lunch my daughter was getting a little tense- I think the noise of the restaurant and getting tired.  So I took my cue from that and we left the mall.  We have learned not to push it.  However I do want to continue more social situations and outings to prepare for going back to school.

It was a nice day and we don't take those for granted.

My massage was incredible too- I might be getting better at this self care thing ;P

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Re: daughter hostialized twice for suicidal intentions- im grieving

That must be so lovely seeing the girls making compromises for each other @sunflowermom. They are certainly days to cherish and appreciate 😊

 

It’s so fantastic you’re following cues and diverting those triggers. My daughter’s the same - noise and becoming tired leads to over-stimulation and meltdowns. Similarly my daughter needs gradual extended exposure to social situations to build up her resilience and tolerance. 

 

You so deserved that massage so I glad you loved it. The more you practice self care the better you get at it I reckon, so book in another massage! Heart