Great thanks ... View more

What love you too if your happy ... View more

I would love you to start it if that's good for you ... View more

My daughters 16 son 12 and I'm a bit more than 40 lol ... View more

Absolutely great idea ... View more

@taokatI guess that's what I need to learn as well as my son ... View more

taokat I agree the hardest thing in my life is seeing my kids suffering.   so when we get them a bit more settled the thought of them having to suffer again is just horrible  ... View more

yeah so very true I guess ... View more

taokat I know its just so hard at times.  I was told the other day we still need to let them make mistakes its normal but I its hard when they are going so well and the household is happy ... View more

beingme2017 I'm also a big queen of rumination.   Its so hard I not to be I never want to go back to places we have been  before  ... View more

are we supposed to do quick reply or reply I'm having trouble with replying to messages   ... View more

no I haven't only that people tell me things will be ok ... View more

yeah it is I guess it is  ... View more

I had to make the decision for both kids and myself but it was such a hard decision. Oh still have another place of work was trying to work two places to provide for the kids but it just made things much worse ... View more

Things are ok. He's been pretty good I keep waiting for our world to erupt again ... View more

I am very sad because I had to resign from a second job I love today cause I need to be there more for my son at the moment :(( ... View more

Yeah I just realized that lol ... View more

Yeah I am here ... View more

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Me too lol ... View more

How do I actually get involved in this ?? Is there a certain link I use ?? ... View more

Thanks taokat  its nice to know you are not the only going through things cause so often you feel so alone.  I do worry very much about my reactions and what affect that has on my children unfortunately sometimes I seem to have no control which happens I know to even the calmest of parents.   You are right there is no such thing as perfect parents but we put so much pressure on ourselves at times.  It is one of the hardest jobs I have ever had to do.   I blame myself and ex partner for what has happened and I guess until I can let go of that I am not going to be able to move completely forward with recovery.  I like to hear stories like yours of people that have been through hard times and come out the other side cause its a constant worry that things will go back to what they were and that's a scary place.  (I know I know I need to think positive but sometimes that's hard to do but I am trying).     The coaching session due to work commitments I had to cancel and I have not yet booked another one.  I will get around to it because I do believe it would be very helpful.     Its amazing you think everybody else has perfect lives and then you start talking to people.  We tend to hide things until we can hide no more and we are so far down that it takes a lot of love and support to come back to the top.     In the end we are all doing the very best we can do with what we have at the time we just have to remember that  :) ... View more

Great thank you really appreciate it. Look forward to hearing from you ... View more

Thanks taokat. Today went well. You are right it is very hard letting go but hopefully it's a positive in his and my recovery. We have done nothing but argue and cry together for so long it has to change. Somebody else said the same to me yesterday we have to alllow them to make mistakes do they can learn from them so true I guess. He was started on medication which has made a big difference so far. He starts wth a new psychologist in a couple of weeks and he is actually happy to talk to somebody which is a huge turn around. He is a beautiful gentle caring little boy usually and I'm starting to see that side of him again which is lovely. I'm struggling unfortunately it's so hard. Two years ago I never expected to be alone with two kids. I'm getting support but it's slow. I am so glad I found this forum it's nice to have others to talk to that know that you are going through. Is your daughter still going ok ? How long has she been taking medication for? Unfortunately I'm stil at the stage of looking at him and worrying it will fall apart again I never want him or us to ever go through that again but I have to be realistic. Thanks again for your support ... View more

Thanks for reply. It is so hard. I never wanted my son to be on medication but it got to the stage that we had no choice now I wish I did it long ago. It's in the day time tomorrow I have given him lots of rules and decided I probably need to trust him. It's been such a long way to get where we are I guess I just still freak out at change and letting go a little. Tomorrow is a test he is going with friends so I guess those parents are ok with it. You are right it is so bloody hard having to make these decisions on your own and hoping you make the right one. ... View more

Thanks breez it's a coastal town not a city but it's still hard to let go and know how much freedom go give them ... View more

Hi guys thank you so much for the replies. It's been a really rough few weeks but hopefully things are finally starting to get a little better. I just worry that if medication and therapy don't work what else is there. I know it's negative thinking but when you are so far down it's hard to be thinking positive. We are two weeks into medication and had to cancel psychology appointment today as it was causing too much stress. Have another appointment next week so fingers crossed we can make that appointment. It's so nice to have the support of others as sometimes you feel so alone and so helpless so thank you all. ... View more

Have seen GP yesterday and feeling very relieved.   Took at lot to get son there but we both came out a little brighter.   GP was fantastic called psychologist and school whilst we were there and got all the information on board before making the decision that we really needed to start on some medication immediately.   I have been apposed to medication for a long time but now am realizing there are times it is needed and this is one of them.  Dr believes with the medication and continued therapy we should see some good results.   Fingers crossed we are now on the right track to getting our happy little boy back.    ... View more