Hi thank you! l know there are so many of us dealing with this issue and its so nice to hear there is a light at the end of this tunnel. Yes we do have weekly visits to both psychologist and psychiatrist and even today have asked for her medication to be changed, something has to give here it's just so traumatising to feel like nothing is working. She has been diagnosed with bi polar but yeah I really don't see that rings true and have asked for a second opinion to try and get some clarity. We are lucky that we do have a good relationship and she does tell me whats going on and even the not so cool stuff, she does know l will react and give my opinion always even if that is not what she wants to hear. In saying that l do always try and build up the good things and focus on any positives out there l can grab on to, but like you said she will always tear herself down and think she is a dissapointment to everyone. Any ideas to get her inerested in Something! Anything! ... View more

Thank you! I have encouraged her to keep going to uni which she is keen on continuing, dropping to minimal subjects to allow her to cope, even so she still wants me to drop her off and pick her up and of course l am willing to do everything l can so l happily do this. But l feel like l can't do anything except be there whenever and wherever she needs me. Now that uni is on holidays l was so looking forward to her putting herself out there in her part time job but two days in she quit and now there is nothing that she has to do and I'm worried that this will lead to even more feelings of being a disappointment. ... View more

Hi all! I am new to the forum and really don't know where to begin! My 19 year old daughter has struggled with severe depression for the past four years! We are now at the stage of multiple admissions to hospital to undergo invasive treatments including TMS and ECT - which l was seriously against but at 19 l have lost that level of decision making.  The medication path - although this has improved her ability to cope has further exasperated her self esteem by gaining a huge amount of weight. Her loss of confidence is frightening and she now views the hospital admissions as a way out of having to cope with life. Infrequently attending uni and has recently quit her part time job, which was at least a connection out there.This is so so scary for me to see her withdrawal from her friends and is now choosing to chill with friends she has met in hospital who are also struggling with their issues. Feeling a connection is great but I'm worried that the influence is not uplifting or positive and they are using marijuana in this group. I know Im asking a lot but l need some way to break into those walls of self loathing and feeling worthless. She is adored and loved and we are able to talk openly and honestly but Im not enough, I'm desperate to find some way to help her feel valued and wanted. ... View more