Hi   I guess my most optimistic outcome is that her mum and I can find a way to interact healthily and we jointly decide to start a repair and recovery process (couples therapy).  At the same time setting up an agreement on healthy expectations and boundaries to support each of us move forward.  My 2nd most optimistic outcome is that her mum and I can find a way to interact healthily and we can demonstrate that in front of our daughter.  This outcome i on her wishlist.  At the same time setting up an agreement on healthy expectations and boundaries to support each of us in move forward.  My 3rd most optimistic outcome is that we simply manage to set up an agreement on healthy expectations and boundaries to support each of us in moving forward.    I have my own personal therapist - Clinical Psychologist My wife and my daughter both see the same counsellor/therapist.  As far as I know, this lady only meets with them separately.  My wife refuses to give me any information about this therapist.   Open to advice  :-) Tks   ... View more

  1. How old are your kids and what is one thing they've done recently that made you laugh? I have two grown-up stepkids but my daughter is nearly 14yo and this time last year decide she wanted to live with mum fulltime. The last time she made me laugh was the last time I saw her properly which was several months ago.  She dressed up like a young landscaper to help me in her mum's yard.  She wanted me to call her "Brad" 2. Parenting can be really stressful - how do you try to keep those stress levels down? I have several stresses in my life which together are a potent combination.  I exercise, see friends and volunteer locally 3. What led you to ReachOut Parents today? I need advice on how I can re-attract her into my life more    4. Whats your top tip for parents whose kids are about to enter teenage years? Just remember how you were when you were a teenager. Don't forget that they are testing their independence out.  I see it like they want to try the trapeze by themselves now.  Our job is just to be the net and let them do the rest. 5. Whats the best thing about weekends? I'm not enjoying mine at the moment. I feel I need to get into routine where my daughter will visit me regularly. ... View more