Hello @Buttercup and welcome to the forums so glad you found us here! It is so wonderful that you are sharing your story so that others do not feel so alone.
Before I respond, it sounds to me that you are not based in Australia – where we are, so cannot refer you to any specific resources, but in saying that you have found a community of amazing supportive people and is a great place to hear from other parents who have been in similar positions.
My heart goes out to you at the moment and I am sorry to hear about how difficult things have been for you and your daughter – it is no wonder that you are feeling like you are at the end of your rope right now!
It must be so heartbreaking to watch your daughter suffer and express to you that she has ‘given up’ on things that she obviously values in her life – like her schoolwork and frustrating to not know how to help her through this. I will say that your love for your daughter shines through in your post which is a huge positive and providing her with a comforting, loving and supportive space –while it may not seem like it now, is such a great start.
From your post, it sounds like you think that having your daughter reengage with a professional would be useful for your family at the moment – even though some of her recent experiences are causing her to resist this? It might be the case that the professional you were speaking to previously was not the right fit for your daughter at this time and maybe proposing to her that you see somebody different might be more agreeable to her at the moment? In my own life, it took me a few attempts to find a counselor who was completely right for me – but when I found her it was like a revelation and made all of the lead-up just part of the process of getting me to where I needed to be.
There are some amazing people who I am going to tag into this conversation as they have had experiences and perspectives that might be useful.
@taokat whilst not homeschooling exactly, has had experience with distance education and might have some insights into how that process was for her family.
In addition to this, @motherbear and @Chalke5 have spoken beautifully about their experiences supporting an anxious child.
Lastly @Schooner has shared experiences of finding the right professional help in the past.
Again, thanks so much for sharing your story here!
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